So my boyfriend has a 10 yr old daughter from his previous marriage. she is so disrespectful not only to him but to me. She has a nasty attitude and thinks she can do whatever she wants. If she is in trouble here she calls her mom and her mom makes it worse because she thinks her dad is to hard on her. But when she doesn't get in trouble he doesn't disipline her enough. She screams and cries bangs on things says she wants to go live with her and wakes our 1 yr old up. I try to stay out of it as much as possible but it is so hard!! I get so mad I just leave and let them hash it out but then my boyfriend gets upset that I left. any advice on how to handle a step child. I'm only 25 my son is my first child. I'm overwhelmed and tired of fighting! it's ruining our relationship l.
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she might be taken her anger out on you because she doesn't know how to express her feelings she has about her mom....try one on one time with her. let her know you're not giving up easily, it could be she wants attention. just try to be patient, they're not always good at expressing their feelings. she might be having issues at school or something that has nothing to do with you or the dad, kids don't act out for no reason...hope this helps, good luck
exactly her mom can be happy again and have a relationship. I take care if her 24 7 her mom sees her maybe once a month sometimes not at all. so it's taken personal when she acts like this. ugh I wish it was easy for us all to sit down. it's just a compitition and she plays her mom and dad she acts like it's so bad over here with us then she'll come home from her mom's and say the same about her house... thanks for the advice! ♡
Im 25 now. Was about 18 when I married. Was for 6 years. I've been down that road before, but my ex husband had 4 step children. That's how it was with us at first. (not the reason for my divorce) What I did when I had enough of it was sit and talk to my x about it. Something had to be done. So I got a good of both bm and so did he. We had somewhat of a hard time convincing them but finally had a sit down like grown ups, I layed it all on the line. Soon after we had a sit down all of us, bm,kids x and I. Everything was said. I made it clear I wasn't going anywhere. Their father had the right to be happy again, and I demanded the same respect they gave their step fathers (that weren't like that w him) Like what made it so different? If mom could love again so could Dad.
It kind of made it easy because I know from when I was a child how hard it was having parents separated.
It's funny noe, it's been 2 yrs and a half since my divorce. Those kids grew to love me. And guess who sees them and talks to them and their mom's more than the father?! Meeee. lol. Crazy how things play out.
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BEST OF LUCK TO YOU, DO NOT LET THIS RUIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP. BE IN THE SAME PAGE AS YOUR BF AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. ♡
that's for the advice!! :) @samantham