when I first found out I was pregnant with my first child (had a miscarriage) I found out my…

I understand where you're coming from. I don't let my boyfriend watch it either because I told him I get insecure as well. Sometimes I'll randomly send him some pictures so he doesn't have to look at it. And it makes him happy so I'm happy. Hopefully you feel better /:

It's different if you have a self esteem problem he should see that. I let my boyfriend watch it but I also let him know that I'm not like those women and I can't do the things or look the way they do and he really makes me feel better about it. He even deleted all of it off his phone in front of me. I know there's other ways to see it but it made me feel better when he deleted them off his phone. I don't care if he watches but your boyfriend should make you feel better not worse :(

@rockysmommy, he knows I have horrible self esteem.. I was raped by 4 of my cousins at a young age and for a couple of years... and I always felt disgusting and revolting to everyone and I just don't like the fact he has to look at other woman like im just not enough

Yeah I was sexually abused by my father until I was eleven so I can relate to the feeling of disgusting and revolting. It's something hard to overcome plus I've always had problems with feeling too skinny and with all these posts about men liking thicker women better than skinny, it doesn't help. But he makes me feel a lot better just when I'm not feeling into sex I don't want him thinking he can't watch it sometimes to help himself because lord knows I'm not going anywhere near that hotdog in his pants. I also send him pictures too randomly to tease him.

@rockysmommy , he just touches me w.e pretty much even when I don't even want to.. and right now I can't even be having sex my OB told me it's a no no because I'm bleeding rn.

Yeah definitely a no no. And my boyfriend does that too. Even when I don't want it, he's touching me. I get so snappy at him about it.

I'm so with you on that , I've always told him about how it makes me feel...he doesn't watch it like before ..and deletes the history lol so I guess so I won't feel bad..

Omg I totally get you 😔

When my fiancés and I first started dating and I found out he was watching it I went crazy!! I had low self esteem as well. It went on and on constant fighting. I didn't know what to do. Until one day I juts finally excepted it. Once I excepted it and stopped searching through his phone our relationship couldn't get any better! The only thing that ticked me off is when I would ask him if he watched it that he would deny it so I made him promise me not to lie to me and to not delete his history because that would make me think other horrible things. So he didn't delete anything and would be completely honest with me because I made sure to tell him that I would leave for sure the next time something like this happens. Anyways I explained this to one of my coworkers and she said "well maybe he feels low self esteem in 'bed'" so I started noticing the difference. Anyways long story short... After I let him and paid no attention to it, he no longer does it. He doesn't seem so species anymore. And ever since we found out we were pregnant he said he has no interest in it anymore... Hoped that helped a little.

its better for him to watch then to actually have sex with another women... but i honestly don't get why they watch it when they have us to satisfied them 😡

I get where everyone is coming from....my husband before when we first started dating would watch it and I had a low self-esteem because of my past. It mad me feel unwanted but I then found out he was doing it because he would get so horney and now that either I didn't feel good, couldn't because of my period, or just wasn't in the mood he would so he knew that him constantly touching me or "complaining" about not getting it enough he would help himself. Once he knew it bothered me he wouldn't do it as much but also ment that even when I didn't want to he would still try. He told me it should have made me feel good about myself because he always wanted me but it made me feel like he only wanted sex. Fast forward to now when we are married neither of us watch it because our sex drive has gone away from me being pregnant. Everynow and then he will get horny from either thinking of our past sexual experiences or just looking at me and I will tell him go ahead because I don't want to deal with it. I know it's easy to think that they have us to have sex and porn is unessesary but...look at it from a guy's point of view....Very simple and to the point. My husband told me straight out when he watches it he is not looking at the man or woman and thinks of it as him watching him and me instead of strangers having sex. It's just the though of the penis going in and out of the vagina that makes it. Sometimes it's not the sex with a loved one it's just the satisfaction and relaxation that comes from it afterwards is why guys do it and some women. It's hard when you have low self-esteem to think other than bad in a way that hurts you.