hey guys I have a question. I need your opinions in something.
recently in November I unfriended my 2 bestfriends. I known them for 16 years and we have had fights before but never to the point where we break our friendship. ..
I wasn't planing on making a baby shower until stephanie asked me if she could do a baby shower for me in her house. I was really happy because I felt like she really wanted to get involved until she cancelled in the last minute. she gave me only one week to find another place. it really got me mad because my whole family told me that she was going to cancel because she always cancels plans on me. she even had me send invitations before she cancelled to all of my friends and family. now thinking that I didn't need to spend so much money on a place I spent it on decorations and cake and food. before I felt like it was okay for her to cancel but with this I found it really offensive. I told my other best friend yesenia about it and she thought it was really messed up too. so I found a hall to do it in it cost us a lot of money but I did it. I actually didn't invite Stephanie but I did expect Yesenia to show up. but she didn't show up. I felt like my two best friends failed me..
6 years ago I also had a small party after my wedding (I only had a civil wedding) so the party was supposed to be for everybody else who wanted to celebrate it with me and I invited my bestfriends. neither of them showed up. they didn't support my idea of getting married at 20 yrs old.
so having them do this to me now I felt like it was time to let them go. do you guys think I did the right thing or did I over-exaggerate?
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Your not in the wrong at all, we have been friends with these girls for so long when life events happen like this we should be all there for one another and for my friends not to be there out of all things showed me how our friendship was. My friend who apologized, I work with now so she sees my son all the time and has made an effort to be apart of our lives but as im getting older and I have my own family, if someone cant make an effort to talk, see.or communicate with me than im parting from them. I shouldnt have to remind them im here and the sad thing like you, I made the effort when she needed me there I was there for her in a heart beat! Dont feel bad though!
thank you you're right .. I don't feel so bad now I see my point of view is right. they kept messaging me saying I was being exaggerated and that if she didn't show up to the birth of my baby then I would have a right to be mad. guess what they didn't even congratulate me after knowing I had my baby.. mean while I went to queens like 2 hrs from where I live to see her when no one visited her at the hospital... @des_a_rayy
wow that so messed up... see what I mean like why say something if you don't want to do it??? just don't say anything at all... I don't understand these so called friends... when I say I'm going to do something I do it! or tell them ahead of time I can't or tell them the truth why... some people just don't care. that sucks @kattastrophe
I know how you feel, I had a friend growing up, we were solid friends for about 7 years. probably my only best friend. she moved upstate and we still talked occasionally on facebook, we were totally good. one weekend she was supposed to come to town, she told me what date. I waited and didn't hear from her, so I figured she didn't come. then I saw pics of her at the beach hanging out with her saying "it was nice being in my hometown again, hope to come back soon"... I wrote her and said "glad you had a good time in town". she wrote back some bs excuse, I just didn't talk to her again.
I had kinda the same situation myself, both my friends of 16 years didnt show up to my baby shower. One said they forgot and the other didnt even bother. I forgave the one who forgot, she was honest and ended up getting me at least a gift to make up. The other didnt make much of it so im just eh with her. She got engaged and I dont plan on going to her wedding. Thats sad she offered to have it at her house than canceled :/ you dont need a friend like that
lol we all do.....they're just going to continue to disappoint you and ur happiness is key. letting them go is your key to happiness bc they will always bring u down and for a best friend to cancel last minute on your baby shower goes under the who needs enemies when you have friends like that?
thank you but I feel a little sad because they were literally my only friends... everyone else isn't as close to me. Now I'm home alone all the time my husband is always out he hates being home and I just wish I had human interaction lol @mantha823
no I would have cut them off asap to me it seems she did that on purpose, those aren't friends I wouldn't talk to them or text them if they message you why just simply say our life our going in different directions and we grew apart
I feel like you did the right thing.....u don't need that in ur life and those aren't true friends
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