Feel like I'm having. Cold baby feet. It's like I want a baby. But I'm scared its gonna hold me back…

I feel you...I would urge to make the decision based on what YOU are willing to do. Are you willing to change all the diapers and be the one getting up all the time and be the one breastfeeding and worrying etc? My husband was the one who really wanted a baby sooner than I did, and I was skeptical and now the twins are a month old and he is basically plays with them only. He also works 5 days a week to provide for us all. He changed the diapers when I had a csection to heal from but hasn't since then. I am at home with them all day, I get up with them at night I do tummy time and listen to them scream BUT I dont mind. I came to a place before we got pregnant that said I was willing to do all this in case he was lazy about them, or only wanted to do the fun stuff, or if he and I had a falling out, etc, so I enjoy my time with the babies because I made this personal commitment to them long ago prior to conception. You cant control anyone else, only yourself. But to be safe, talk to him about your specific fears before you even start trying. see if he can make a commitment himself to what his role will be before you try. I only asked my husband provide and take care of that stuff, so that's all he does. In retrospect i shouldn't have assumed he would help even if working, but at the time I couldn’t have predicted twins, and 1 baby wouldn't have been overwhelming for me. Hope I helped a little and good luck 😊

Thanxs for that. It did help. You have so many valid points. I had a convo with him and he says that I have nothingness to worry about and that he will be the man I need. And I truly hope so. But I guess only time will tell. But you're right I'm gonna focus on what I can control and change. It's my body and it's my choice. And just based off o me alone I know I'm ready. I just would have to refocus my goals a bit. But all isn't lost just cuz I have a baby right. I mean we both work. But I also do some modeling/acting. And I don't wanna fall into a mommy pattern just bcuz I'm gonna have a baby.

my dear babies only hold you back if you let it...not saying that in a bad way, I was a very young mom and still accomplished school, was working full time and there for my baby. now looking into college and bettering myself with the company of children. I won't lie its hard, but worth it. just look at other perspectives, is it what you want? are you finiacially/ emotionally ready for one? we are women we can do a lot more than we think. you're not wrong for not being ready and you're not wrong for second guessing, just keep your mind open and fear not let you hold you back from what you want! best wishes with your decision

@samantham, Thanxs so much Sam. I agree that I don't think having a baby would stop me from doing what I really set my mind to. I think it's just the "cold baby feet". Cuz at the end of the day this ain't like buying a doll lol this is another human being that I would be responsible for. And even tho I know I'm ready I guess u can say I'm already done in mama bear mode cuz I wanna make sure the enviroment around my little one is ready and stable enough. I guess it's typical to wonder if you will be a good mom and what exactly is good enough. You ladies gave me some things to think about tho.

Girl U gonna b fine the universe never provides you with a job without the tools you are about to come into some serious abundance girl In ways you've never imagined because you are doing the most selfless thing in the world....having a baby congrats