So, in your opinions, no wrong answers in my mind, when is a good time to talk to your son/daughter…

I'd say if they are young and ask give them the pg version like I did with my 3 year old niece when I got pregnant. But I'd say when they ask if not when you notice they are getting more interested in relationships. I was 12 when I lost my virginity but I lucked out that my bf at the time was smart and let me know. my mom didn't give me "the talk" until I was 18. If not for him I honestly think I would have been pregnant at a young age. So I'd say pay attention and make sure they know its ok to ask anything so when they do want to explore they can at least be safe.

My parents also gave me the PG version at like 3 years old because I was already asking questions. They gave me the more detailed version in elementary school. But I was a very curious child. I think that if you know your child is mature enough to sit down and listen and not speak to other children about it, then you should tell them. I was sexually abused at a very very very young age and I honestly wish my parents would have told me SOONER than they did, though people would argue they told me too early. I don't think it is ever too early to let your children know what is and isn't okay and that it is okay to talk to you about anything. I didn't know that certain things were wrong behavior or that I could talk to my parents about whatever I wanted. Which in turn made me have a very traumatizing childhood. I really feel sometimes like I didn't even have one. I will tell my son as soon as I think it is possible and try to save him from the things I went through. My parents were also never gonna give my brother the talk. They felt awkward and asked me to do it for them... He started dating this girl at like 13 or 14 and I sat him down and told him everything in great detail. If I hadn't I would for sure say they would have a child right now at 17 years old.

@katt18, definitely! my son will be 7 in June and kids are saying "I have sex with my mom and the teacher etc " and I didn't want him to think it's something people just do like that at all and he probably didn't even know what it was which he asked me what it was so I explained when two people love each other very much and are ready to have a baby they ya know.. guy has a stick thing and girls have a hole and when they go together a seed goes to the belly and makes a baby.. I was so scared but I think he understood as much as he needed to and he knows it's main purpose is to make a baby! just like he knows beasts are for feeding a baby so, I think I did okay!! haha

the kid saying that at school didn't know what it was** @katt18

@babymay2016 wow I'm so sorry you had that happen to you as a child.. nobody deserves that, it's horrible.. I had something similar happen when I was younger, and you really never feel safe again.. I try to make sure I talk to him about everything and he is a really smart boy, he's so sweet and I would kill if anything ever happened to him, making sure he knows just how sick some people are in this world and that's why I get so upset when he wanders off in the store, I've had to explain abduction and rape to him recently just so hes aware and it sucks but you're totally right I wish my parents would have actually had an open communication with me about it because I probably wouldn't have become pregnant at 15 if things were done differently, but everything happens for a reason and he will forever be the best thing that's ever happened to me

@mamacodi_09n16, As long as you feel you got the main message through I'd say for now that's better than nothing for now.

@babymay2016 I'm so sorry for what happened to you when you were young.

I am sad but also happy that my baby's father also understands and agrees that we will always be open and honest with our son about the dangers in this world, as soon as we think he is able to try to understand said thing. He was born in Africa and his parents still to this day (23yrs old) have never spoken to him about anything like this. He was also taken advantage of as a child but didn't know much about sex until we made the decision to have sex together. I guess they're lucky that he never went out and figured it out himself... I really think it is important to tell children as soon as you can. I won't say I am better because of it, but if I hadn't learned the things I did at such a young age, I wouldn't be able to share my stories and help other children not go through the same thing. It isn't my place to speak to my littlest brother about these things but when he asked questions about little things here and there I did ask for permission to explain to him that NOBODY needs to see his private parts except maybe my parents if it is absolutely necessary or a doctor if something is wrong. And that NOBODY is allowed to touch him there. Also that he isn't allowed to see anyone else like that either. There are cases in which that is okay and I explained that also but tried to get that point across to him. Yes children are generally innocent (we would like it to be that way anyways 😕) but I wish parents would be more aware of the change in this world, and educate their children, in order to protect them. I didn't tell my youngest brother about sex but in my opinion they should already be talking to him about it. I am pregnant and live here and have been pregnant with a different person before and lost the baby... I can't imagine him not asking questions about that specifically. I would rather my parents or I talk to him about it, even in detail, rather than some other misinformed child telling him. That's where it goes wrong I believe.