@neeshadanielle, I don't want you to think I an coming down on you. I don't know you. Just be a friend. I'm quite sure that we all have more than a few judges in out lives where we just want to be held down and supported.

They broke up at the begging of March , as did my babies father and I . I just couldn't imagine doing it so soon w somebody totally different . & it is different from the babies father . If you have already did all your test and blood work, you have figured out you are std free . If you go have unprotected sex with someone , stds Are still very contactable and can be passed down to the baby .

@passion1212, as stated , she came to ME , and I didn't know if I should react and tell her I'm uncomfortable because that's how I'm TRULY feeling. Not once did I say I would stop being her friend , nor sayin anything negative , but tel her that I was uncomfortable .

I personally can't imagine having sex with anyone but my baby's father ever, but we have been together for a long time and have a good relationship so I can't speak to how I would feel if we weren't together

I don't think its that big of a deal to be having sex while pregnant with someone's child, like it doesn't effect the baby any different if its the bio father or someone else. my husband and I before we ever got married and decided to be together were with someone else while I was pregnant, and honestly I don't see anything wrong with it. and that's nobodys place to judge someone for that because if that's the case and you want to judge then you better judge every last damn person on this earth including yourself.

O think it's a matter of how you feel as a woman . Me and my child's father we cool bit I do know that because I'm pregnant he is having sex with some one else because he is so called scared about hurting me. He says he isn't but I know. But as a woman and for the safety of my child I want have sex with anyone else but then again some may and if that's what they chose then so be it. Of they catch something then it's their problem and the results are transferred to this unborn child. Many times I think as humans we are selfish and feel entitled he don't make me happy we not together so I'mma find happiness not knowing that sometimes that happiness can come with herpes or hiv and still seem nice and lovable to you. Just make sure one protect them selves of that's the road they chose to take is all I say! @neeshadanielle

I couldn't do it! When I was 4 mos pregnant with my oldest his dad and I broke up. I dated a guy but wouldn't sleep with him. Just thinking about it makes me very uncomfortable too.

My granny used to tell me, "... I can't watch my pussy and yours..." Never really knew what that meant until I see posts like this. Nobody knows what their situation is like behind closed doors and who's to say your situation is favorable. Why be worried about who or what she's screwing??? Don't you have a baby to prepare for yourself? Don't you have your own life to live. It's a problem in society where people judge others based on their own opinions. Get over yourself darling as I'm pretty sure you have some things that you can do daily to better yourself than worry about what guy is having sex with your friend and her vagina. Worry about you're own vaginal health and try being a real friend. If only God can judge us, then who are you again???

But it's okay for the baby's father to have sex with with other people? Because that's what mine does? So my life is supposed to just completely stop because I'm carrying "his" child. I don't think so. He disrespected me the day he emotionally and verbally abused me to the point I was diagnosed with depression again, and he thought it was funny. He disrespected me the day he DEMANDED I have an abortion because he was embarrassed to have a kid at 26.

@cass_lynne true I'm going through the same thing. but I killed I sex life though.
..I'm just not comfortable lol so we are waiting which also sounds crazy but eh lol I can do without it lol

I never said you were sticking your nose anywhere. I understand why you posted, but my personal answer is that it isn't your place to judge her. Especially if she is your friend. If you're so uncomfortable about it, then you should just not talk to her then because it is not your place to judge anyone, let alone a friend coming to you for advice or whatever. I have had plenty of friends I disagreed with, but if you can't look past their decisions and not judge them, you're not really their friend to begin with.

@babymay2016, also she is telling me about it & im a bluntly honest person . Hence being uncomfortable. It's not me sticking my nose in random peoples business. I didn't know how to react to her , which is why I posted this in the first place .

That doesn't make it okay. You only have control over yourself and the fact you know you're being judgmental on something you can't change, but are still doing it... That's on you though. If it makes you uncomfortable you should delete these people or whatever because they're gonna continue to do what they want to do. You aren't their baby's father, so it doesn't matter how you feel about it. And It isn't maybe not your place, it literally isn't your place LOL

@babymay2016, maybe it's not my place to judge them . But it's something people do . People judge people all the time not even on purpose sometimes . But it happens & I can't help that it makes me feel uncomfortable & if I was the father of that baby , together or not , no matter the situation , I'd feel disrespected .@babymay2016

I don't see how it is your place to judge someone for doing that. If you yourself find that disrespectful, then don't do it yourself then. You really never know someone else's situation. I don't find anything wrong with that and it is her decision anyways, not yours. There are SO many situations in which the relationship doesn't work out and you find someone else. Should anyone really be expected to wait that long just because they're pregnant with someone else's child? I haven't really had sex for months and months by choice, but if I really felt I wanted to, my babies father and I aren't together... I would do it. I definitely don't see it as disrespecting him.

To each their own I guess. Everyone's situation is different. I wouldn't take my son's father back ever. We are not meant for each other and he could never treat me right. Some people aren't meant to be together forever. Even if they have a kid.

They are early along for the most part . Like 9 w , not in a relationship with the person they are having sex with ,& the baby daddy is trying to work it out. They didn't break up over major things. I just find it disrespectful. But that's also my opinion .@cass_lynne

If they're in another relationship why is it a big deal? I left my son's father right at the beginning of my pregnancy because he was an abusive prick and didn't want to be a father. I met someone else down the road and was madly in love with them. They wanted to be the father my ex never would be. I was happy. So what's the big deal about being intimate with them if they're okay with the fact you're pregnant and it's not their kid?

i would at least wait til i give birth and im all healed up damn lol

i cant even imagine that, thats so nasty lol

@navywifej, that's how I'm feeling.

barf