Okay, so I haven't found out what baby is yet but I've been thinking in terms of certain toys as…

Okay, so I haven't found out what baby is yet but I've been thinking in terms of certain toys as baby gets older, in particular dolls if it's a girl. I personally am multi-racial; I'm African American, Italian, Irish, Native American, and my child's father is Puerto Rican (though if you saw him you'd assume he was African American). I'm considerably lighter than him (when it's not summer) and though I know our child will PROBABLY (I know it doesn't always happen this way) be some median color, it obviously won't look like the standard blonde haired blue eyed doll. I've made it known that my child will have a plethora of dolls in various skin tones hailing from various backgrounds just as I was lucky enough to have. However, my child's father seems to scoff at the idea any time I look at brown skinned dolls and lighter skinned brown dolls whether they're fisher price learn to crawl dolls or barbies or what have you, saying the only reason I'd want the dolls for my child is because I think that that's what the child will look like and that's really annoying to hear especially since it isn't true. Being multiracial myself I know what having those various dolls to look at and play with did for me and my outlook (obviously, I'm "dating outside of my race") and how excited id be when my parents got me dolls that looked closer to myself and how proud it'd make me that "hey, this doll looks like me!" after being bullied for not being "black enough" in one school and being told that "because I'm lighter I think I'm better" or that "I'm not really mixed" or "I'm lying about my race" and not being "white enough" in another; don't get me wrong I loved my blonde haired blue eyed barbies and baby dolls just as much, but I saw how other girls who were like me or darker would play with those same blonde haired blue eyed dolls and get teased and shamed about how they didn't look like the dolls they owned or were playing with and whatever else and that never sat right with me. I know this may sound silly to some people because dolls are dolls and who really gives a rat's behind but I don't want my child to be ashamed of their multicultural heritage because there's not toys that look like them, or books they can relate to, and I want them to accept and love people and not to be ignorant of other people and races and choices in the world with the ever changing society we live in. Yeah it's silly to think that something as minuscule as a doll can help with that, but I'm not that far out of my childhood being that I'm only 20, and I spent 2 years working for toys and babies r us and saw this dilemma day in and day out whether it was the mom who only bought their child brown skinned dolls or the adult that only bought their white child white dolls and returned anything that the child got that wasn't or told their white daughter why would they get the brown doll or tell them no altogether, using the "you already have too many barbies" excuse meanwhile their cart is filled with new barbies and accessories. I don't want my child to grow up thinking that one race or skin color is better than another and if it's a girl and it likes dolls this is one way I'd do that. I know this is kind of silly but it's just something I wanted to vent about.