RANT:: my babies father just said today out of the blue he's gonna be there in the labor and delivery room.. and my family doesn't like him making me feel entirely stressed about the whole situation.. not to mention prior to this he said he wasn't even sure if he'd be there due to past things between him and my mom.. he's hurt me so much through this pregnancy i don't want to say no to him seeing his daughter being born& I kinda want him there so she can see her dad, but I dont want the stress of my family being mad that he's there.. I don't know what to do.. and I'm so completely stressed I can't even sleep. 😭😭
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and its so sad to me to see you say you're worried about making other ppl mad, this is childbirth!! screw everything else for real!
When it comes down to it you are the one who decides who'll be there. and he is the father so regardless of how your family feels that's kind of immature to try to keep him from being there for the birth of his child!
I mean I understand that... but when it comes to the child of the TWO of you, umm my mom would be the one to go! he shouldn't have to be uncomfortable for the birth of HIS child. like I said they need to put their differences aside for this ONE day for YOU! and then everyone could be happy😊😊
I mean it is his baby too, they just need to put there issues to the side and be there for you, but if he wants to be there then I'd let him be
@gingyrex thank you for your advice& you're right I'll have to be stronger.
Just breathe, mama. Your happiness and your baby's happiness are what is most important. Anyone upset by that will eventually get over it. Make a choice and stick by it. Less stress that way. :)
I agree fully but they are both strong minded.. and I just feel like I'll either pick one or kick one out from arguing.. I feel like I'll probably cry if that happens.. I wish that theyd look at it that way... @raemeg
umm, it's his baby so he should be granted to be in the delivery room with you on y'all special day. him and your mom will just have to co exist for YOU!
Oh the hospital I go to say how many we want.. and both my ma and him know(cuz when we were in speaking terms all the time) and so it's like ugh I don't want to make anyone mad at me.. and I wouldn't mind the whole visiting thing it just because of how he sounded he wanted to be in the labor and delivery room right next to me(which I wanted more so before all types of shit happened between us) but now it's like.. I just hope you don't stress me out. ugh I'm stressing now.. and it's not even happening right now. 😞😞 @gingyrex
Most hospitals only allow two people in delivery with you, so choose who will comfort you in labor. Then when having people visit just make time for both separately. The nurses are there to be the bad guys and kick people out if need be. You got this mama!
Ugh I hate that.. cuz I feel the same when my ma is talking. you're lucky. and I totally agree.. it's about the baby and not the issues everyone has.. but sometimes it's like are you fs they're mature enough to do it.. I have a feeling I'll have to pick out one or a few people.. and I'm not excited at all.. @dylansmommy123
i gave birth to our daughter alone so she feels he doesn't deserve to be there
my mom likes to say its him or me. when its not about either of them @marisa95lynn
im sorry. That's the same mess im dealing with. thank god i live in Tennessee and my family is in new jersey. Everyone needs to put their issues to the side and support you
Look honey regardless if they're going to be mad or not if he wanna be there let him there if anyone doesn't like it they can stay in the waiting room. Labor is intense and you don't want a bunch of unhappy people lingering around because he wanna be there for his daughters birth. Deny him now and he may be resentful after she's Here