So I Thought That Whoever Is Doing Your Baby Shower Does Everything? I Thought All I Had To Do Was…

it's supposed to be like that and your not supposed to know its supposed to be a surprised but not anymore I'm paying for some of my stuff not a lot

@victoriaaaron12 Because If Im Goin Do Everything Whats The Point Of Having Someone Plan It?

there really ain't one, you might as well plan it yourself

You really shouldn't be paying for anything if someone else is planning it for you. My mother in law asked us to pay for the food and we have to tell her no because we can't afford to. My mom is also planning a shower for me and she is taking care of everything.

@victoriaaaron12 And Then To Tell Me All This Now... Like Its Crazy

my mom did mine but I still did help a lot. Cause I'm crafty so why not? Even though I was like 36 weeks I was def tired Lol

I'd just tell them if you're footing the bill, you'd be more comfortable planning it yourself. I offered to go the favors, but everything else my MIL and SIL took care of

@twinscomingsoon Same Here My Baby Daddy Mom Is The Planner But I Have To Do Everything.. Im 8 Weeks Away From Labor How Much Can I Do. I Get Food Stamps So I Can Help With Food But Just To Be Doing Everything Is Crazy And Too Much

I'm nosey and like to put my 2 cents in lol so with my 2 yr old I kind of helped out with a Lil cash with things I personally wanted but I let them surprise me with the decorating and oh my was it beautiful

@scoobygirl30 See I Can Do That But Just To Do Everything By Myself Is Crazy. So Why Get A Planner Then?

@emmarosemommy, yeah we're trying to get out of my parents house and get our own apt. We buy our own groceries and everything else we need. We have some savings but we need that for down payments and anything else well need for our twins. I was kinda upset when she asked cause it's like dang why offer to do the shower then ask us to pay for stuff when she knows we're trying to get on our feet before the babies come.

That is true @emmarosemommy

@twinscomingsoon exactly! because i Wasnt goin have one tbh. but of your sayong your goin plan it why should i be doing Anything. i just hopw i Didnt sound selfish ive just never heard of the mother to be doing anything for thw babyshower Thats why you get someone to plan it

@emmarosemommy, I felt bad at first but then after talking to my mom about it she said I shouldn't feel bad she offered to do the shower she should be prepared to pay for it. If not she shouldn't do one.

' Wow That's Not Selfish If Their Supposed Too Plan It

Yeah my shower is Saturday and I bought a few specific things that I wanted added but all the major things and cost my mother and MIL are paying for.

I guess my family operate a little different yes ppl help but if its my baby shower then I'm not expecting anyone else to pay for it my cousin is going to plan it but I'm not expecting her to pay for it

It can be a little selfish to think "well you wanted me to have this baby shower so you pay for it" when in reality I will benefit from it

@zarimom1 Thank You

@ljmommy Exactly And Its Stressful

@sunflowerchild Maybe Were Just Different But Ive Never Seen A Mother Do Her Own Shower. She Just Shows Up

Lmbo I was think min the same.my friend who doin my baby shower is broke so I was thinkin if I pay for it it's gonna b everything I want in more