So not pregnancy related me and my husbands mom (I don't like saying mother in law) got in a super huge fight and she told him it's either her or me like wtf why would you put your son in the spot when his about to have a baby with me his wife and she lives with us so I ended up living and now she want to be calling me saying sorry like fuck no bitch he tells me to go back since I came to San Antonio since my mom lives here I been here since Friday i dont know what to do I don't ever want to see her but I love my husband but at the moment he choose her not me so I hate him as much as I love him what should I do stay or go back and try to fix things only with him. It her?!
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Hey girl I showed this to my bf and I also read also and he told me to tell you that to not go back if a man chooses his own mother over his wife and kid then that ain't right he made the wrong choice cus he started a family and he dumb enough to go back to his mother...
@nicole021995, I think that's a good idea. Don't let his mother cause strife between you and your husband; dont allow her to have that control over your feelings. Take some time to think it through and speak to him in a way that he doesn't feel like he's having to defend his relationship with his mom. My boyfriend isn't close to his mom but he is extremely close to a friend of his that I have had to specifically dedicate a day of our counseling session to explain to him why he no longer is even a priority in our lives. Took a little bit but he gets it now. Thank the lord.
Yeah i think it's best for me to stay with my mom and be calm and not have to deal with his mother but I know my place is by his side but his choosing other wise so I'm just confused @boenischpartyof5
@nicole021995, I do know where he's coming from though. My dad hates my boyfriend after we went through the lowest point in our relationship after having our girls. I moved back to my dads place for a week but decided I needed to stay and work it out with him for the sake of our relationship. My dad refuses to speak to me now (it's almost been a year) and has not once asked me how his grandkids are doing. He basically told me to pick between my boyfriend, the father of my kids, or him. I chose my family. I told him as my father and my blood he should never make me choose between the man I love who I have kids with just so I can maintain a relationship with him. MY family is number 1 and no ones going to make me choose; at the end of the day, I'll always pick my man
He things it's a game he tells me not to go back then he tells me to go back like his just taking it as a game now i dont know what to do its so confusing my mom tells me to try for my marriage but with his mom in the middle we have no future
it doesn't matter he needs to man up im with @boenischpartyof5
@nicole021995, if he can't stand up to his mom, then he needs to be ready for this turmoil of a relationship between you two. It doesn't matter if she's his mom, she is clearly not respecting him at all and only cares about her feelings. He needs to be a man in this situation
I know that's what I told him and he said well she's my mom if I want her in it she will @b_g_b_mom
i know how you feel but if you dont try to make it right with him and put everything on the table you to him you might gonna end up with what if you know trust me i know exactly what you are going through and he just has to man up and make the choice at least you are going to know that you try your best because its its a 2 people relationship not 3 @nicole021995
That's what I told him that I come first and he said well she's my mom she's my family than wth am I and the baby and she says that we are his mistake @boenischpartyof5 that hurts so much and I told him I don't want her near my son or me and he tells me well than stay with your mom don't come back like his choosing her over me
As your husband and the son, he is unfortunately going to be in the middle no matter what. It is his responsibility to come between the two of you and get things settled. NO MATTER WHAT though, as his WIFE, you come first. That's just how it is. He has his family with YOU and she has no other choice but to respect that. It sounds like she needs some clear rules about boundaries that should be help up until she fully respects them
It's just I feel so much hate for her she told him that the baby I'm having isn't his sons and she put my family into it and it hurt me so much and then she was saying I won't be a good mother look i dont know I'm just fed up I don't think I can ever make things right with her as much as I tried @b_g_b_mom
i say go and try to make tgings right after all you love him and his your babys dad .....you got to be the big person and make some rules its your house not hers i went through that with my mother-in-law and now she knows her place and we get along just fine
@nicole021995,