has someone said that to you ?? how rude. no one has said that to me , but the closest thing to it was some of my older family members have asked if we were planning a wedding and got upset when I said no we don't want to rush it.

Well I was married before having children but that is out right disrespectful I'd have to hit below their belt if that were me offend to be offended

I would go off. It's disrespectful period.

Uhm, it's 2016... who cares if a child is a "bastard"... Seems like an out dated term to me and yes its rude