Anyone deal with a loved one with addiction?! My brother has been battling addiction for ten years now and long story short he has OD & died three times that day at the ER . He ...

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Anyone deal with a loved one with addiction?! My brother has been battling addiction for ten years now and long story short he has OD & died three times that day at the ER . He has hit rock bottom and slept out of his car he has stolen from my family he has went to jail for 4 felony charges an one mis. Now he is out on probation after taking a plea deal he did good for a month then went right back to it and pissed dirty for his PO . He is facing 5-10 years behind bars, I have his son ( have had him since 3 months old ) he doesn't pay ANY attention to him I've begged him to give him some kind of attention before he gets locked up and he's too busy selling and doing drugs. We have offered fully paid rehab, to do an in home rehab, we have had family meetings with him we have tried basically everything . He refuses it all. He is terrified to get locked up for as long as he is facing most he has spent is a month behind bars and now he is threatening to kill himself , we have notified the police and they told us if he hasn't physically harmed himself there is nothing they can do since he's an adult . Any advice ? I love my brother but he needs help!!! I don't know what to do with him anymore ....

countrymommy0916 · Answer

Thank you @mel0011 @justinjrsmommy

Carol Burrough · Answer

I'm sorry

countrymommy0916 · Answer

That's the thing when he goes to jail he puts himself on suicide watch, he tells them he's suicidal and he has been hallucinating from the drugs also so normally for the first week or two he's in there he's always on watch I don't think it's really he would do this in jail but before his warrant is set and he goes back is what we are worried about . I've finally told him it's time for tough love and to stay away from my house and family until he is clean. I feel bad for his son but I can not let my family go through this emotional roller coaster wondering if he will come home  or when I will get a call being told he is dead. He needs to turn himself in when his warrant is released and do his time . He says he knows he needs to man up but he doesn't want to "miss his kids and niece grow up" which was the same excuse on why he took the plea deal get when he got out he hasn't shown any interest in his family just the drugs . Thank you everyone for the kind words I just lost a very close friend of my to addiction and am really not ready to lose my brother over it also !  @justinjrsmommy  @theemmariefactor @bianca_rose @babylove1209 @mel0011  @mrsmoore

Carol Burrough · Answer

jail would be what's best for him at this point. he won't get clean for his kid or a family that loves him. maybe he will for himself. if you can, get him put on suicide watch.

Sarah krashin · Answer

sometimes you just can't help them unless they want the help,jail would be good for him it would keep  him clean it's scary but maybe that would make him understand and learn from it

Melinda · Answer

I understand too. Im so sorry. The one left town to get away from the crowed & is doing good now. The others go to jail get out go right back to it or do good for sometime & then back at it. The one will be out 2yrs in May he has fell in it over a dozen times since he got out but hasn't got caught. All I can say is love him & pray for him. You can't help him intill he is ready to give it up & when he is he needs to move away from gang crowed so he has a better chance of not getting back in it.

Heather · Answer

im so sorry. i have seen this time and time again. my family runs a program for men with drug and alcohol issues. its a faith based descipleship program and many men have been sentenced there in lou of a prison sentence. unfortunetly you cant want it enough for them. They have to finally be ready for themselves. If he is finally ready to surrender and will try you can attempt to help coordinate him with the program. he has to be the one to apply, but you can assist. Its Loving Hands Ministries. You can visit online or call 941-747-5683 for more help. praying for you!!

Bianca · Answer

I know about addiction all too well, we have SO much of it in my family. What I've learned is that it doesn't stop until they're ready. All of the tears, begging, pleading, doesn't do anything because you're not actually talking to that person anymore, you're talking to the drugs. I wish I had good advice for you but I haven't found the answers yet either. So sorry you and your family have to deal with this

missing241user · Answer

I understand that on so many levels. My brother is the same way. He went to jail for trafficking, now is out, finished probation, and then is still high as a kite all the time!!! And tries to lie and say oh no I'm just tired. But here's the thing- he doesn't do anything to be tired!! It's so frustrating. He also has a four year old who he sees every other weekend- and the whole time just puts her in front of the tv and then sits there nodding off. Idk what to do with him either. So where I don't have any advice, just know you're not alone.

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