Birth Plan Rant I used to be all about getting an epidural, but after research and thinking about it more I want to have an unmedicated birth (this is my first baby). What annoys me is when I say that I'm going to TRY my hardest to have a natural and unmedicated birth people always feel the need to say that I'm crazy or that I'm going to change my mind when I get in that position. Or that epidurals are the best. I do realize that plans change, but why can't people be supportive and encouraging?
Keep the baby or Abortion....... I'm 5 weeks pregnant which was not planned, told my family and there over the moon. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years, we said we would be together no matter what. We both live with our parents and I'm in full-time work and he isn't. I've always wanted to be a mum it's one of my dreams, but my boyfriend thinks we should have an abortion because he thinks we are not ready, he doesn't have a full-time job and we are not living together. I don't believe in abortions and he said he would stay with me if I decide to keep it. But I scared he might leave. Should I keep the baby that I've always wanted and might not ever have one or have in abortion, know I have to live with the pain for the rest of my life and what till we are both ready? Please HELP :-(
Sad panda Blah. I'm really sad about it, but we are moving to Washington state before the end of the year ???. My family lives there, and I went to part of high school there and we lived there for a couple years when our oldest was a baby. So it's not ALL bad. But...I'm still sad to leave my neighbors ????
Am I wrong for telling my Bd that because we not Married my baby don't have to have his last name? He really got mad and told me I was project n ignorant. Crazy part is I was thinking about giving my baby his middle and last name
Today just may be my lucky day you guys let me hurry up with this baby sprinkle and get to that hospital they coming they coming I'm dying I think it's real this time frfr my pelvic bone feels like it's having contractions
Aly·
Some people do think it's ideal, yes. But.. It's not always the best. I was married to someone, and thank god every day that we did not have children. (We're divorced now.). We weren't married for too long, and then the true colors came out, and all hell broke loose. We didn't marry quickly either, we were together for years. We grew up together. We were neighbors as children. Sounds fairy tale-like, but faaarrr from it. It took a while, but I started dating. And then one day, my boyfriend and I found out that we were expecting. And I couldn't be any happier. :)
Jessica·
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I'm not trying to be critical, judgmental, or anything along those lines, but it sounds like you were meaning to say that you were glad you waited until you were in a committed, faithful, loving, strong, and happy relationship, as just being married doesn't always mean those things. I have seen so many people get married and after they have a child, things fall apart. Then on the other hand ones who aren't married are thriving. (Granted I've seen it the other way around as well.) I don't think it has to do with whether a couple is married or not as opposed to being more so about the components that create and maintain a strong relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years and do everything a married couple does - just without the legality of it. Parenting has little to nothing to do with marriage & all we can hope for is that the parents will love, nurture, and be involved in their child's life. ❤️
Shannon 🌺💖·
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Oh yes, I agree, it is harder. I feel really though it comes down to if its a mutual agreement to have a baby, people need to be more careful if they don't know if that man wants to be with them and/or have a baby. I think some people don't think it through. Yeah, we will get there ourselves, just worried more about getting a house and what we needed cause he feels he needs to give me 'the wedding of my dreams' lol. We were told we Couldn't have babies so we kinda just didn't take too much precaution, but now little man is here 5 years later! ☺️
Emily·
Yeah I mean marriage doesn't mean much to some folks which is disheartening but it's a thousand times easier for a man to leave when he's not legally bonded lol my husband and I have our problems but we took a vow through thick and thin, sickness and health. My sister has been with her boyfriend for 7 years and she refuses to have kids with him until they are married and I think she's really smart for that. Of course, surprises happen and marriage isn't for everyone. But it was for us and I wouldn't trade it for anything! @shananaginsx
Nesha·
Мама троих детей
I had 3 kids with an ex bf and now I'm married with my first by my husband and it's definitely a big difference
Shannon 🌺💖·
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I think everyone wishes to be, but not always in the cards! Also, married men can run too though unfortunately. I wish we were married, but we really are there just without the certificate.
Gwendolyn Paschal·
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Yeah I feel to each their own but I couldn't see doing this at 16-21 especially. It's hard for young boys to be men at that age. This is my first child at 36 and I'm married. I just thank God I'm happily married. I wouldn't want that stress at such a young age.
Teria·
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I understand. People will be people
Emily·
Well people take things how the want to but everyone's situations are different! I waited a long time to even have sex (21 years old), but I was also a full time college student so I wanted to be as safe as possible. I don't want to people to think im judging because my mom had me out of wedlock, and despite it being extremely hard she says it was the best thing that ever happened to her! @gcpaschal @brittlangdon22 @navywifej @mommytoaprince
Gwendolyn Paschal·
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It's a good thing people didn't take your post personal. They definitely took mine personal about the same subject.
Teria·
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You don't have to feel bad for expressing yourself. We're supposed to wait till marriage anyway so what y'all did was perfect! And this is coming from a woman that isn't married and has been with her SO on n off 5 years now. Congratulations on your baby girl ! 💜
brittlangdon22·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
I understand that I got pregnant with my bf at 16 and he left me when he found out but luckily my now husband took him in as his own and after getting married we had our 2 kids with a 4th on the way. it's much better being married
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agreed 👍