Ok so my bf already had a daughter before me and him met and it seems to me like he tends to her but when I talk about my child he acts like he doesn't care, I've asked him about it and he says he acts like that bc the baby isn't hear yet but he's never been to any of my appointments when I'm sick and have to go to the Er he's never there, please help me understand ...
AdriannaВ ожидании первенца
Maybe it's still unreal to him and he's still in shock? My boyfriend was like that at first but now he's starting to slowly come to reality with it. I think for them it's different because they don't have those "parental duties" immediately like we do if that makes sense. I talked to my boyfriend about it and he told me that he's like that because he still couldn't believe it. Me & him are also in a long distance relationship though but I see him on weekends so of course he hasn't been here for appointments either so I think that may be why it's not all the way there yet. He will be at my next appointment though at the end of the month but he won't be at many because he plays college football and they've already started practice for the season. Some guys just come around later then others. He might not believe it until delivery, who knows. But I would try to talk to him about it and try to get him to maybe one appointment and see if that helps. Or go baby shopping, something to get him involved.
Well idk what to do, I hate to act that way towards him when the baby gets here towards him @mommyof2016 @lovely_girl211
SarahВ ожидании первенца
@its_meejesz i agree with @mommyof2016 he should be there to willingly support you the whole way.
Jessie GroomsВ ожидании первенца
but then what doesn't make sense is why wouldn't he show that through the whole pregnancy I'd kick my man's ass if he didn't go to anything he leaves work if I have to go to the e.r he doesn't even care what they say to him about it
But he was so excited when he found out I was pregnant @mommyof2016
Jessie GroomsВ ожидании первенца
if that's he's baby he should have been there.. sounds like he never wanted another baby and tjat makes me sad
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
This chick that works with my boyfriend really confessed her love to my man and then went into tears when he rejected her. (Mind you, he works in a kitchen and tells everyone about me and the fact that I’m pregnant and how excited he is to have a son.) Apparently she’s started to cause him problems at work and getting jealous when he talks other females, me included😂 Like this hoe really tried it😩😂🤪
Mamas I really need some advice or just a listening ear, I really don't know what to do, or if I'm overreacting, but my baby's father and I are together, when we met and I got pregnant he was here working, he went back to work out of town after I found out I was pregnant and only comes back once a month, he supports me financially, which was mostly his choice bc he makes good money, we are doing fine on money.. but I'm almost 31 weeks and as I get closer I'm really worried about raising my daughter on my own, he plans to continue to come back only once a month even when she is born and it really scares me, even though I know we will need the money since I won't be working, I still feel like I'm going to be alone raising our daughter, when we talk about it all he has to say is he doesn't see any other way, but he's never lived here, let alone had a job here, and I know of so many places where he could get a job easily when he's here for one of his monthly visits and he just keeps saying that he can't quit his job and move here without having a stable job, and I keep telling him he can,find a job before he quits this one, but yet he's not even trying to find a job when he's here, he hasnt researched job openings or called anywhere, sometimes I feel like he's just comfortable with what is happening and it really hurts me to think about my daughter not having him here, and raising her alone, for one he's never been around a baby, doesnt have a clue how to raise one, and has never even HELD a baby, so I feel like if he only comes back once a month then he's never going to learn how to help with her, let alone know her, and her recognize him when he is here... every time we talk about it, it just turns into an argument and I'm to the point where I feel like I'm wasting my breathe... I just really don't know what to do, I'm scared, and need help and I feel like he doesn't wanna risk anything by moving here when I really need him. am I overreacting??? btw don't get me wrong, I'm beyond grateful for him, with everything he does, and all the financial support he provides, but I've never been "taken care of" (for lack of better words) and I would rather work too, just to have him here to help me and be with his daughter and sometimes I feel like that's not an option to him... it's really depressing me and scaring me. don't be afraid to tell me if I sound like a spoiled bitch or something, I honestly need yalls HONEST OPINION. 😞
Rant My SO has been rude a lot ever since I've gotten pregnant...he said he doesn't care about my pregnancy, he doesn't even take one day off from work just ONE to come to at least one ultra sound appointment. I mean he's always making sure I'm fed, he lets use the heating pad, and even apologized to saying he doesn't care. He can mess with me all day but when I want to join and play around he gives me an attitude. He just makes me feel like s*** at times. He's a great fiancé don't get me wrong, but he can really get on my nerves and makes me upset to the point I go to bed earlier than him and cry until I fall asleep. Idk if it's the hormones or something/: I try to be a great fiancé. But I always seem to fail /:
chantel·В ожидании первенца
Kinda sound like my situation my baby father have two kids a boy and girl his baby mom was already pregnant with his daughter then I get pregnant when we talk he calls his daughter his daughter and our daughter mine daughter it's like he don't even claim our daughter we don't talk and he is never at the appointments probably one time never help me to stack stuff up and his excuse is because she ain't here yet well my daughter is having my last name
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