So, a little "what would you do".

So, a little "what would you do".

My family and I do not have a relationship. my dad's side is super back stabbing, my mom is super toxic. I do have a "relationship" with my little brother in the sense that I've told him and his wife they are welcome over whenever to see my son and invited them to my baby shower. When I told my dad's side I was pregnant, they went behind my back and sent a care package to my son's dad letting him know I was pregnant. When I tried to announce my pregnancy to my mom, I waited at her house for 4 hours. she never came home and ignored all my calls. I invited them all to the gender ultrasound. not one made it. My dad's side immediately told my son's dad I was having a girl, my mom never even asked, but for some reason she asked my son's dad who told her. That was the last I talked to any of them. my son's dad was using my mom as a Friday night baby sitter, but once she wasn't able to feed him any information, he never let my son see her again.

My baby shower is Sunday. I have always said I would never keep my children from their family and have always told my family they are more than welcome to come down, until everyone was discussing my pregnancy to my son's dad who wasn't even there for me during his own sons pregnancy. My son keeps asking for my mom to be at the party, and I would love for him to see her, but I just can't bring myself to invite her knowing she's going to immediately feed any information about my daughter to him.