I need to rant. my to be MIL keeps taking my baby away from me when we go to visit. she keeps saying…
I need to rant. my to be MIL keeps taking my baby away from me when we go to visit. she keeps saying that's her baby and I'm not allowed to see or hold her while we are there. and she literally runs out to my car and grabs her. my little girl is only 1 month and 9 days old. now she's pushing me to give her the baby to keep for a weekend. and says she k ow how to take care of my daughter best because she's raised 3 kids. I have anxiety and I cannot stand to be away from my baby for more than an hour. I love her to death but now she's pushing us to get married right away at the court house. and she's picking out EVERYTHING. I mean she already ordered a dress online for me. she picked colors. she picked his and my rings. she got my brides maids gifts and is making all the bouquets herself. it's like I can't take care of MY child good enough or plan my own wedding. hurts so much because she's more of a mom to me than my mom. Ut she needs to STOP. I'm 24 years old and I can do it myself!
Sunny 💋·
Мама сына-младенца
Sit down with her and talk with her tell her first how much you appreciate all her effort and love she has towards the baby and yalls wedding but since it's your first child and your wedding you would prefer to be more hands on and decide ... Seems like she cares "too much " and if you go at her all mean she's going to get her feelings hurt and not be supportive and the last thing you want is her resenting you when your marrying her son but you def need her to have some boundaries ... On the flip side ... My mil doesn't do shit or even want to hold our baby mainly much less do anything nice for us .... My parents on the other hand also have begged for us to leave the baby with them all weekend but my sons like your baby he was born January 26 so a little over a month old and there's no way I'm ready for anyone to have my child for. Along period of time but they just love him and want to be around him
Jessica·
Мама дочки-младенца
I've sat down with her several times about it. she doesn't listen to me or her son. (he back me up) and Thanks for the advice. I just needed to get that all out of my system
congrats on the baby btw. :)
pattalee·
Мама сына (1 год), беременна (39 нед.)
tell her flat out. don't be afraid to speak your mind. it's not her wedding and it's definitely not her baby. just because she raised 3 kids doesn't mean she knows what's best for your baby. I'd flat out tell her to back off
Sunny 💋·
Мама сына-младенца
Then you have to be more aggressive she has to chill these are your memories (ps you have to tag us back in or we don't know you responded ..lol I didn't know that at first either :/ ) I love weddings how exciting !! She's like a momzilla ... thank you !
Karen Dodson·
Мама сына-младенца
I know the feeling on the baby part my mil does the same thing. I hate it bc he is mine I carried him not her. but I haven't stepped up like I should.... but you need to tell her that you will do things your way and if nothing else tell her if she doesn't stop the visiting will slow up or stop atleast im thinking bout sayin that to mine as well.