@faithfulness88, i totally get you :)

I lived at my in-laws for some almost a year but left to my moms afterwards when we separated for four month, I payed half her rent plus half on bills and bought a car also got my own house I was 19 and with two kids no child support no nothing, everything is possible. I'm so thankful that my mom helped me those months and continues to so.

@selene_drt, Yes! 🙌🏻 But they want to be a mommy and daddy! Smh! I mean some of them are very responsible but MOST of them aren't!

THANK YOU for speaking my mind lol I was going crazy thinking about those post too lol. I totally get it that it isn't easy but like they say you made your bed now lay on it. I was a young mom too at 18 but I was always conscious that it was all on me. it's ridiculous how some of the girls live with their parents and still think it's their full responsibility to still support them and the baby and get mad if they aren't able to help. Just by the fact that they let you stay home one should be grateful/thankful

@junesmommy15, Yes!!!! And no disrespect to no one in general. But most of them are the ghetto ones! Who think they are hard but really they ain't about shit! They need someone to put a stop! Lol

I agree with both of y'all. One thin I don't do is disrespect my mother. Especially when I was under her roof. I wouldn't dare come on HERE and do it with a whole bunch of strangers. The ones who make those statuses always get the feedback that they want. They need someone to tell their behinds the truth! Someone to tell them to sit their spoiled and unappreciative butts down someone and read a book! They always want the responses from the other hot heads that agree with them.

Well let me tell you that I don't regret my daughter. She's 3 months now. After my son who is now 10 years old. Well I started going out a lot I had everything right. He is being taken care of. I was a office manager for an Optician Dr, making good money, have swings olive on my own, well I was doing great just enjoying life and wel I got with my boyfriend we would go out a lot. Literally a lot and I'm a drinker so I like going out for drinks. Now that I am 27 with my 3 month old it's been tough lol I love her so much but I do miss being out and about. My son was older so it wasn't a big deal anymore. But like the moving in together with my boyfriends which I love so very much and I don't regret it but everything seems stressful now. Lol I don't want to go back to work yet because of my baby but then I do miss working with my patients. Also living on my own I am very clean and any little mess gets to me. Well when babe gets home he sometimes just throws his shoes anywhere and it bothers me lol also when we all go out I'm the last one that's ready and rushing because I have to make sure both of my kids are looking better and make sure babe doesn't forget anything and you know how that goes. ITS VERY DIFFERENT!!! @boenischpartyof5

@faithfulness88, I couldn't have put it any better. I was 25 when I got pregnant and my boyfriend was 29. Although we were older and more established, we had only been together 5-6 months and only living together for 2 months. We're both VERY social and loved being out on the lake or wherever on the weekends. Getting pregnant at even our age was a HUGE lifestyle change for us. I don't miss going out anymore, but I do miss the freedom to just make plans and go without having to get a sitter a week before.

I got lucky with the in laws. They have always spoil my son. My mom did too. But yes you skip so many things and it really sucks and you realize it when your older. I look at my nieces one is 17 now and the other is 18 and then my little sister who is 20 and they go out hang out with friends 2 of them in collage and I see how they are enjoying life. I didn't get to enjoy life at that age. And then I got separated from my son father and o started going out having fun but I still had to be home at a certain time because I had my son. Well I remember that many times my friends wouldn't understand that I had to go home because of my son. And did I feel bad? Yes! Because I wanted some time for me but I also had my son who had to be put first. And my mom wouldn't watch him a lot. NOT TO GO OUT. And I had to pay my in law. And even though his father and I always had a good relationship being separated I still had to pay my in law or my mom. Why? Because they both told me if you want to have fun I'm not watching him for free but if you are working or in school then yes. Well my point is being young is the time to have a good time. Don't skip your years to be an adult. Being an adult is being very responsible. Many people don't see it that way I know I didn't. , @boenischpartyof5

@faithfulness88, I read the comments from very young moms and never respond because I know that at that age, I thought I knew it all too. But the truth is, if you're going to choose to have a baby at a young age, then you gave up being a teenager, or in your young 20's so you could have a responsibility that does not end at the age of 18. When I look back now, I realize how completely oblivious and immature I was even though I thought differently. With that being said, that maturity has to come earlier when you're bringing in a baby. The fights with your mother who you live with all bills and expenses paid is NOTHING compared to the struggles you will have after having a baby because that's actual hard work. My mother stepped up from day 1 to MAKE SURE my babies had everything they needed when we couldn't afford it on our own. She doesn't give us money to go out with or anything for us, it is all for our kids and I couldn't be more grateful.

Girl yes!!! Females now days are something else. Like not to offend anyone in here but mainly the youngsters! They want to grow up so fast. Like chill you have a whole life ahead of you. I feel like everyone as a person needs to enjoy life as they are growing up. Being an adult is not easy. I wish I could go back and do things right. I'm not saying I regret my son but I could've done better. A 16 year old or 17 year old does not look cute going to dr appointments because she's pregnant. I look back and I'm like wtf was I thinking! Literally you don't know much! Now that I am older I feel like I fit in more/ but not when I was 16 and pregnant. That is NOT CUTE! It happens yes! But I'm sorry people shouldn't have or make kids at that age. , @junesmommy15

My mother will forever be my best friend! I love her so much because she has done so much for me and all my sisters. The only thing I feel bad about is that I got pregnant young and she would always tell us not to get pregnant. To finish school, work and have fun. She always told us regardless you'll one day settle and have a baby. But enjoy life. And 3 of us did the opposite and got pregnant young. But she didn't let us go for that. She has always been there for us. And even if she was one of those moms who are mean or talk a lot of mess I don't think I would disrespect her. No matter what she gave us life. And even to those girls who say "You don't know my mother." I don't know her BUT she still has you around her and that shows that as your mother she cares for you even if she talks mess to you all the time. But I guess they don't see it that way. I'm sure it's hard but sometimes you just have to walk away. Everyone knows their mother well and can manage somehow. But disrespecting her and especially behind her back is just cruel. @boenischpartyof5

I'm glad you said that. They do get offensive when it's brought up. I just feel at such a young age nobody's really ready. Unless we're talking about back, back in the day. There's nothing wrong with saying it's not the right time at a young age. That's the time that you have all the fun you can. A lot of people don't understand that growing up is a lot of work. I've actually seen a 15 year old say she got pregnant on purpose because she don't want her child to be born when she's older. I don't believe that. I believe she had sex unprotected and didn't expect to get pregnant.

We don't live with my mother but she does help out with us A LOT. she gives us money when we're really struggling and comes over almost every weekend (1 hour drive one way) to help us out. I'm 26 and although im a grown adult and these are MY kids, I would never dare disrespect her because of all that she does for us. She didn't choose for me to get pregnant so soon after dating my boyfriend, and she definitely does NOT have to help us out the way she does. I am so incredibly blessed and lucky to have that women as my mother, and becoming a mother myself I completely see where her intentions are and have been my entire life. With parenthood MUST come maturity. It's communicating and talking out your disagreements instead of acting like a child. Being a young mom (or at ANY age) does not give you the right to disrespect the only person who will truly stick by your side no matter what.

Omg yes I totally agree with you!!! @junesmommy15 I had a baby at a young age and let me tell you that I was no where near being ready. Anyone can have a baby like you said but honestly it's not the right time. Now that I am 27 and I have my 3 month old it's so much different. And the youngsters will tell us not to judge blah blah blah! But it's the truth! I was a youngster with a baby and I thank God I did a good job but it wasn't easy and I would've 20 X preferred to have waited at a older age.

My cousin did that with my mom. Got pregnant at a early age and tried to treat her like crap. I don't think anyone SHOULD have a baby at any age but that's just my opinion. Yeah I agree. As long as your living under someone else's roof you should have respect for that person. If it gets to the point they start disrespecting you, move out! Also, I feel these young kids should bring some money in the home if they're bringing another life into the home. Parents should not be responsible for their children's kids.

Exactly. 🙌🏻 @mrsmoore

I agree ,your under her roof if your not paying her bills respect her house and if you are paying bills get your own space you won't have anything to complain about

@junesmommy15, It irritates me so much. Like ok if she's that bad then move out. It was already bad for you and getting pregnant wasn't going to make it any better. I'm not saying don't get pregnant because anyone can have a baby at whatever age they want. But don't be actin brand new with your mother. Lol

I agree with you!!!