Ladies who are pregnant but have a child with someone else: I feel like my bf doesn't try very hard…

You can't force it. But at the same time is not healthy for the child specially when another child will be in the picture it wil effect the child

@wright5, he is very helpful and involved but they just don't do anything like play together or spend time doing things together. His dad has joint custody so that is a factor.

Even that I mean he got with you knowing you have a child from a different man

Yes, like I said he's involved and spends time with us. He doesn't make an effort to do activities with him though.

I had the same problem with my husband. I have two boys. Two and four. My kids would beg to go with him to store or anywhere he was going and he would take them. They would stand sy the window crying their eyes out ! We fought so much over that! I was like you knew before you got with me. I told him it makes me so sad that he didn't bond with my kids like he acted before we got married. It's not fair to the kids. I told him even if he don't fee that bond he needs to do things with them do they don't feel unloved by him.

Sorry wouldn't take them

@39surp, I'll just have to talk with him about it.

That's all you really can do. ❤️

@39surp, he's super understanding and tries, but I can tell its been hard for him. He is really tired and stressed after work so I can't expect too much. It just bothers me sometimes that he doesn't show any real feeling of connection with my son.

@I ndigenousmommy, Same with my husband. But honestly, it shouldn't be hard to just make an effort to do things with the children weather they feel bonded or not. They need to think of the kids first. At least my husband is finally making an effort. Just talk to your SO and maybe things will change. Probably not overnight but slowly. ❤️🙏

I know he'll try harder if I bring it up,just wish I didn't need to. No relationship is perfect. We are lucky to have partners willing to listen and try. So thank goodness for that. @39surp

Very true❤️

I have a 4 year old daughter with somebody else and having a baby with my fiancé and he treats my daughter as his own , he shouldn't be playing favorites though he should treat each equally maybe try talking to him about it and see what he says

maybe he doesn't know his place and u need to talk to him and let him know what's OK and what isn't. maybe he doesn't wanna over step his boundary and then be told hes not the babys real dad so he's not sure how to act.. it's a very awkward situation when it's not talked about .

@hernandezmommy, yes I feel like that's part of it. Especially since my sons dad has joint custody so he's very involved.