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sssaamantha
sssaamantha
sssaamantha·Мама подростка
since everybody opens up here I want to do the same 😔 so I'm expecting baby #2.. My 1st one has a different dad who's NEVER been around. He's completely a ghost in my son's life. So I've been dating this guy, and his been such a great father figure to my son besides my dad... anyways like I said we're expecting, but I just feel like I'm the only one who's excited for this. it's gonna be his first child and I really don't see him excited like I am, even though he tells me that he is. he just doesn't show it. like earlier I tried to tell him something about the baby, and he completely ignored me cause he was on his phone. I felt so bad that it made me cry. I've already talked to him about this, I've told him before how I feel and he told me that he was scared since it was gonna be his first child, his feeling "nervous" what so ever. but i feel like as being his first child he should feel excited. he barely touches my belly, and he hardly asks me about my pregnancy. my son's dad was like this with me and he ended up not being in my son's life. I just don't want to go through this again. I don't want this baby to grow up without his daddy like my other baby is 😔😔 I'm just feeling so heart broken right now. sorry for the long post I just needed to let this out. .it was bothering me.
23.02.2016
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mommyof5kayla
kayla Hernandez·Многодетная мама (5 детей)
Lol mine too girl i have to leave mine unbuttoned lol and they still stay up @sssaamantha
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sssaamantha
sssaamantha·Мама подростка
@mommyof5kayla, ugh my uterus keeps getting bloated week by week. lol my pants don't fit anymore I gotta do the hair tie trick haha
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sssaamantha
sssaamantha·Мама подростка
@wifeandmother, 😣😣 it's amazing when another guy steps in another man's plate!
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mummofthree
Lea Rodriguez·Мама троих детей
Omg I am in the exact same situation as you! But I have two kids which my husband is not father of & he's such a good father figure to them!
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mommyof5kayla
kayla Hernandez·Многодетная мама (5 детей)
@sssaamantha, I said the same thing last week and now I blew up over night and now I'm just like ugh lol and the baby presses all the way up and hurts me
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sssaamantha
sssaamantha·Мама подростка
I'll do my best! thank you! and I feel like it's going by so slow.. lol its giving me anxiety , I want my belly to get bigger and I keep having dreams of the baby. @mommyof5kayla
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mommyof5kayla
kayla Hernandez·Многодетная мама (5 детей)
just don't force it on him okay because then he will really kinda shut you out so just tell how you feel and that it hurts you that he does the things he does but you agreed to give him time and trust me your pregnancy will go by fast then you think I remember when I found out in November and now I'm 5 months pregnant and I'm like wow that was super fast @sssaamantha
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sssaamantha
sssaamantha·Мама подростка
@maybabyboy, I hope he does changes when the baby gets here. like why can't they be supportive through everything, you know? but yeah i'ma give him time. thanks :)
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sssaamantha
sssaamantha·Мама подростка
that's how he told me he felt, he told me to give him some time.. so that's what I'm gonna do. I just felt so bad when he ignored me @mommyof5kayla but yeah yall are right i guess it's a guy thing.. lol I'm just gonna try to talk to him again and see what else he tells me..
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mommyof5kayla
kayla Hernandez·Многодетная мама (5 детей)
just give him time i think it will all change when you start growing and showing and feeling the baby he never been threw it so he probably doesn't know what to do so give him time to let it sink in alot of first time dad's freak out just like us mom's do and we worry about things and they do too trust me in the beginning of our pregnancy my husband was the same way and at that he isn't a first time dad and he was scared and freaking out but excited just not really showing it but now that we can feel the baby he talks and plays and sings to him/her all the time I guess it has to sink in to him and he will come around and just wait till the baby is here he will be freaking out more all you have to do us guide him threw and let him cope with it on his own terms
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maybabyboy
Melissa·Мама сына (9 лет)
I think it's just a guy thing. they don't understand what it's like, to have a little baby inside of you, we all get to be so close to our babies and bond so strongly, and they are on the outside of that. some guys will just say whatever and they become attached once baby is finally here, I've learned my husband is that type, as are most guys. it will be ok.
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sssaamantha
sssaamantha·Мама подростка
Yeah definitely! his a good guy he treats me n my son right and he buys us whatever we want and all my cravings. I hope he changes when my belly gets bigger or when I have the baby.. thank you @girlwithpearls i'ma try to get over it, I stress a lot about this situation
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paisleysmom
paisleysmom·Мама троих детей
took my bf time to be exciter. most are just nervous about a baby. now he talks to my belly and rubs it and gets excited about everything baby related. takes most a little time to warm up to it.
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girlwithpearls
Maybe once you're bigger and start showing more he might change. I'm 10 weeks tomorrow. Another thing is if there's no cause for concern my bf isnt. He's just a very simple and confident man. He might respond to me saying the baby's heart rate is 179..to...That's good. And that's it. I'm really sorry you don't have someone who's excited with you, but if he treats you the same...i.e. "I love you", hugs, love and etc...you have no worries. Get that stress off your mind or it'll drive you crazy, @sssaamantha
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sssaamantha
sssaamantha·Мама подростка
I just don't get it, I thought he was gonna be those type of guys to be super happy and excited but nah , his the opposite. . all he says is that I gotta eat healthy for the baby. and that's it. when I tell him something about the baby he barely responds back. 😕 @girlwithpearls
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sssaamantha
sssaamantha·Мама подростка
well i hope that he changes in time, I'm just gonna let him be him.. I don't want to make him feel like I'm putting pressure on him.. I just wish he was more interested in my pregnancy, or at least for him to hear me out when I want to tell him something about the baby. @carmanbaby @quin230 @sparnell @lilmommy93 thank you guys!
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girlwithpearls
My boyfriend doesn't act excited either. He doesn't ask about the baby. He acts like nothing is changing...but apparently every man is different. This is my first his 5th. I barely act excited. I barely feel pregnant, but I have always been emotionally distant...so don't worry so much. He's not feeling the same changes you are...
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lilmommy93
Ashley·Мама двоих (7 лет, 9 лет)
My husband was the same way. once I started showing and actually seeming pregnant he started to get more excited. He still doesn't talk to the baby often and almost refuses to buy things for him. But he has gotten a lot better about it.
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sparnell
Samantha·Мама двоих (9 лет, 16 лет)
@sssaamantha, my story is the same as yours... With this pregnancy he was up and down. At first he was scared because he couldn't believe it. We went to the first appointment he heard the heart beat and saw nugget and he was hooked. He's been to every ob appointment with me and complains every time how pointless they are because they don't really do anything which makes me just laugh. When we found out the gender, he was upset, which we both were. He became distant, stopped touching my belly and talking to nugget. After doing research we found out grieving after a gender reveal is normal. It took him a few weeks and he a few times again to hear his heart beat. Then we had our scan at 20 weeks. He was so excited to see nugget and has been so happy ever since. Now the past few weeks. He doesn't touch or talk to nugget as much. He told me he's getting nervous because he can could at any time. Men are way different, they show excitement differently. My husband has only cried twice in the 5 years we've been together. Once on our wedding day, second was when he saw nuggets alien self on that screen and heard his heart beat.
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quin230
Sydney·Мама подростка
It's different for everyone. some dads don't become dads until the baby is here, some become when those lines appear. I know you want him to be the interactive dad now, but try not to push it. I'm NOT saying you are, but sometimes it just won't happen until the baby is in his arms
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carmanbaby
Kartrena·Мама дочки (9 лет)
My husband was like that its both of our first baby he didn't seem like he cared or anything I was so upset all the time thinking he doesn't want this baby, he went with me to the ob and we seen the baby and heard the heartbeat his eyes got big and it's been baby ever since I think first time dad's need to see and hear the heartbeat to actually let it click in their heads they are having a baby hope this helps good luck💕
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sssaamantha
sssaamantha·Мама подростка
Yeah I've tried to do that.. that's when I told him how I felt about this, he basically told me that he was just scared that he was gonna be a dad for the first time, and for me to give him time. but i don't see why he needs time. anybody would be happy ass hell to be a parent and mostly the first ones always show that they are excited or care.. but i don't see it in him @quin230
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reaganmommy2015
Martee 💋💋·Мама троих детей
Sometimes men are like that when I was pregnant with my daughter it was my 3 child with him but it was his 5 kid I felt the same way be never touched me never really asked men how I was doing, never went to any of my appointments but once she came it was different so I suggest talking to him like what @quin230 said
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quin230
Sydney·Мама подростка
the best thing for you to do is talk to him about it. tell him you need to talk without distractions, make sure phones are put away and tv's are off, no distractions..tell him how you feel, and why. let him know you understand, and whatever you do, do NOT allow him to make you the bad guy in this.
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