so. My husband wants to have sex when he comes home....and I should be between 28 and 35 weeks…
so. My husband wants to have sex when he comes home....and I should be between 28 and 35 weeks then....and I'm really uncomfortable with the idea of it because sex is literally what triggered my preterm labor at 32 weeks with my daughter. I don't want to disappoint him because he's been away for 7 months, but....I'm just not okay with it since I'm high risk. the conversation has been bugging me for days
Rachel Cleveland·
В ожидании первенца
u should let him know that, there are many other ways to be intimate together
Jessika·
В ожидании первенца
if you're a high risk then your uterus is on time out, and your doctor should have told you that. that means no sex. nothing going in your vagina. just tell him you cant, because of that.
missing197user·
would he settle for just some special treatment? like @rcleveland if you let him know that you're really scared to, he should just be down for some other things.
Sarah Drew·
Мама двоих (младенец)
I would bring it up to him, tell him your concerns.... my husband wanted to know if something was concerning me while pregnant (if it had to do with the pregnancy) as @rcleveland said there are other ways to be intimate without having actual intercourse
Julia·
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (28 нед.)
@rcleveland, I'm almost scared to say anything because it sounds selfish, but it's a valid fear. I avoid talking about it and I think he knows it makes me uncomfortable but he's so into his own needs
missing479user·
Мама двоих (6 лет, 10 лет), ждёт третьего
High risk doesn't necessarily mean no sex. I am high risk and on bed rest but not pelvic rest, depends on what you're considered high risk for.
Rachel Cleveland·
В ожидании первенца
its not about just his needs anymore its about whats safe for u and the baby.
Julia·
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (28 нед.)
@jessika0610, he knows. i live alone and haven't done anything. but he still pushes it. @jessicahartze, I'm not sure. he can be really selfish and I know he's excited to come home but I just worry about it. for a year, he felt bad about sending me into preterm labor but he doesn't seem to care now
missing197user·
hmm.. get a doctors note;) can't argue with that!
Rachel Cleveland·
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so if ur not comfortable with something he should understand
Julia·
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (28 нед.)
@skmamaof3, I had an extremely rare uterine infection and sex triggered preterm labor which was lucky because they didn't know I had the infection. the preterm labor triggered something in turn and I ended up in cardiac arrest. it was really scary. and he was a guilty mess for a year because he didn't understand what had happened.
Jessika·
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if you're a high risk pregnancy, NO doctor will tell you sex is okay, it won't hurt the baby, but it can definitely hurt you and effect when the baby comes. I've been at a high risk pregnancy the last 5 months. strict bed rest, no driving. no leaving my house, nothing.
just tell your man that your uterus is on time out and you can't have sex, and he'll have to understand.
Julia·
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (28 нед.)
@jessicahartze, I may have to if he keeps pushing it. lol.
missing479user·
Мама двоих (6 лет, 10 лет), ждёт третьего
@kayloniandkaismommy, ohh yeah then sex is definitely a no go. I am on it due to losing one of my twins and now high BP, so Dr said sex won't affect me or baby, but that's definitely not the case for you it sounds like. 😞
Jessica·
Your husband needs to know this and be okay with it. He can't be okay with putting you at risk. Especially if you are uncomfortable with it.