my mom left me my brother and my dad when i was for so i only had my dad as a parent so I'm kinda hoping when she is born that he will change his tune cause if not that's when I'm leaving

I saw someone comment that it was selfish and I just have to say they are WRONG and have no idea what they're talking about. Keeping children you know you can't take care of is selfish. But sometimes everything changes when the baby comes and you draw strength from them. My bio mom was a heavy drug addict. She made the right decision. Don't let anybody shame you into making your decision. You know in your heart what's best. 💜

and its not selfish of me to think that i wont be a good mom and give her what she needs plus me thinking I'm unfit is part of my depression

*I'm adopted. I never once thought of my biological mother as selfish. I thought it was very brave and selfless and I was raised in a beautiful home and given the best education by my parents who couldn't have their own children.

not legally married we just claim we are married and ya I'm fine he just thinks its funny to play fight and when he hurts me he doesn't understand that I'm not that girl to play fight with anymore

Please be careful..If you're legally married and try to adopt her out he can step in and take over custody... You're best leaving and getting divorced ASAP... Hope you're ok.

Definitely leave him. NO MATTER WHAT. and then decide what you think is best for your baby... but I will say this, it's YOUR decision to "woman up" . and you CAN do it. You just have to believe in yourself!!!! but if you honestly feel that you can't provide for her then you aren't being selfish at all! You are being a wonderful mother by giving her a life that you don't feel you can give her... Good luck!! ❤❤❤

how are you so sure you csnt give her what she needs? if its materials you are talking about theres always a way to make money and get those things by getting a job and making things happen and thered plenty of help. material is useless. love, attention and care are the greatest things a child needs to flourish, everything else is part of life and not impossible to get. I would always choose to have grown up with my own mother in her love and care even if she couldnt give me all the luxuries and things she though i needed. She raided raised me as a single mother and working hard and doing what she had to do to bring food and clothes to the table. so what if i didnt have pricey clothes and items. I was a happy child because her love was so great i didnt feel the lack of anything. its your choice what you will do though. just think about it, research it, youtube testimonies and dont doubt yourself and your ability to become better. God bless you and your baby

Only you know what's best for your baby. Do what you have to do. Stay strong.

idk your reasons for feeling like an unfit mom but know that everyday is another chance to change and start over. no mom is fit enough. we all make mistakes and we are not perfect. if you can love her thats enough to make you do what you have to do to be a good mom.

honestly do what you think is best for your baby! if you know you can't support your baby than you are doing the right thing. not everyone will see it that way. but if I could give you some one of my thoughts? don't just give the baby up find an adoption agency and talk to them:) find a great family for your baby! some babies don't make it out of foster care

it's selfish to keep a baby you can't take care of. My mom is adopted because the woman knew she couldn't take care of her. I think it's a brave and unselfish thing but it's also a very personal thing. If you want to pm me feel free. But I'd delete this post if their comments are upsetting you. @bentleesmom0617

follow your heart....don't give her up over a man though but if you truly feel like you don't want to be a mother or can't be a mother then its better to give her up..I don't feel like you believe you will be a bad mom though I'm sure you will be a great mom..you just need to leave the guy alone that's making you feel that way..good luck

@angelkisses, they are telling me that i am being selfish all because i know i wont be able to give her what she will need how is that being selfish if im gonna give her a better life with a family that can give her what i cant

I think it's brave of you to do that. If you don't feel like she would be well taken care of our sage in your home then you are doing the right thing. Good bless you what ever you choose and you will be in my prayers. @bentleesmom0617

*she deserves

just leave him. this little baby can give you all the love and attention you'll ever need. there's support systems out there that help pregnant women and help them be able to work and be a mom at the same time. as long as he's not involved you can do it! just because you may not have a bunch of money and she may not have a dad involved in her life, doesn't mean you can't give her the life you deserve. there's so much help out there.

and like i said in my post im hating myself for even saying it

@bentleesmom0617 baby girl you're not an unfit mom. He is an unfit father for putting his hands on you and putting both you and baby in danger. Save every money you can honey and leave to have a good life with just you and your daughter. You don't want to regret giving your child up for a sick human being who will continue making your life hell and possibly put you in your grave early.

its also the fact that i feel like I'm not gonna be able to give her the life that she will need

my baby's father doesn't even claim her nor does he wanna be in her life, but I don't give a damn , cuz I love her and I want her. that's very selfish of you too say I'm just being honest. things happen but u keep it pushing, fuck him, he's missing out on something great!

because i also feel like im a unfit mom

that makes no sense, why not give up the father and stay and rebuild your life with your precious daughter? why punish yourself and her for his failure. dump him and live