@sonjaeg, it's already taking its toll... And I know he can feel the tension between us bc it's so hard to act like nothing is wrong and that's exactly what he does... Like he doesn't see a problem with his actions or lack there of... So it's too late, it's already taken its toll on me

Awww... Im sorry about that, thats soo irritating especially as a mother it can be soooo hard amd stressful, you need to be getting some rest and people always think once you have a baby its just up to you but help is so important especially at the beginning... If he continues to be like that its going to take its toll and make things difficult...

@sonjaeg, no she's trying to tell me that I'm controlling and shit bc I don't ask my baby daddy for help... It's a long story but for short, my BD works out of town and is here for 3 weeks.. The whole time I've been pregnant I've seen him maybe a month all together.. So now that he's here and my daughter was born, he isn't doing shit to help me.. She is 9 days old and he's fed her once.. He hasn't changed her clothes or her diapers he doesn't just hold her or help make her bottles or wash her clothes.. He goes to bed when he's tired and doesn't wake up with her and hasn't the whole 9 days she's been here.. He doesn't do shit but sit around and play a game on his phone.. So I don't ask him for help bc I shouldn't have to ask him! He should see when I'm struggling and tired from being up all night, not to mention my feet legs hands back ankles EVERYTHING IS SO SWOLLEN I haven't wore actual shoes in almost a week... So pretty much my mom doesn't see how he is while she's at work and said that I'm a bitch and can't let go of control and a lot of other stuff.. I'm just so over it!!!

Yeah, i was lucky Because i got taken in with a family and had a mother figure there because of it ... But There's always been issues here and there, maybe she feels like your choosing side or something... Im sure you guys will get through it hopefully you can forgive her even though you may not forget what was said..

@sonjaeg, my mom has always been there for me and I know that no matter what if I need her she would do anything now for me but since I've been with my babies father and been pregnant she has been treating me different when it comes to understand my side and she always tells me I'm wrong and shit when she's not home during the day.. She doesn't see how he is when we are alone.. And he is totally different when she's there and she doesn't believe me when I say that I'm not doing anything wrong. && last night she just went too far and really hurt me.. I'm sorry that you have to deal with that though but your right! This is our chance to do it differently

I haven't had my mom since i was five... I just figure that i have to suck it up and take the loss and realize that im better off... Now its our turn as mothers to be what our babies need... To be what our mothers couldn't... I feel for you because every one needs a mother but not every mother deserves their child... Adult or not!

@embersandash, thank you..

Don't let her get you down. Sometimes they don't deserve the title of mom. That's how I feel about mine anyway. You can ways message me if you need to vent. Feel better!