what to do, what to do.... 😦 should I look at his phone or not look at his phone....

@taylornelson, Yea u c the issue now. 😒 n maybe I asked for it but now I'm not liking the thought n feel unsure

Oohhhh I see. Hmm 🤔

@taylornelson, here is the background on the post. so we have a friend (we call her wife #2) BC we have all got close. well I found out he messaged her, she thought I knew he did n offered to screen shot me all the messages...BUT I wonder if she does send them would she leave parts out? He never leaves his phone now and I've had no reason before to question until now...or am I over thinking this?

@deviildeee, @katierouleau21 @goodbyelullaby @mccluregirls

If he won't let you look, there's a reason and you don't need it to leave. My boyfriend of 4 years and I have never broken the other's trust in a significant way to impact our relationship. I don't go through his phone, but if his mom texts him and he is asleep I'll text her back and that's okay with him completely! If I go to leave for work and he is off and my phone is about to die I'll leave him mine and he will send me with his and that is perfectly acceptable! That's a good, trusting relationship. I was with someone I constantly worried about cheating because I could never see his phone. I ended up leaving him because some chick told me she kissed him. I wish I had left when I had the hunch. You know what's going on whether you have proof or not. We are females and we have that intuition ;)

well he isn't that bad, n if he gets that bad he won't have a phone. @deviildeee

My BF sleeps with his phone in his pocket. & when I ask can I look through your phone he tells me later not right now & later never comes😡

@goodbyelullaby, I hope I'm not over thinking it either. He doesn't delete anything he just turns it down and keeps it with him n site. He told me he would stop but I just have a feeling he hasn't.

I hate to admit it but I check my husband's phone too. After the things he's done in the past I have too. He always deletes his call logs and messages that aren't from me or his mom. Now he turns his phone off when he's not in the room. I have a lot of trouble trusting him anymore. He acts so suspicious on his phone. Hopefully I'm not just being paranoid😒

yep! @katierouleau21 I feel u on that. We have had no issues until I got a new friend (guess best way to explain that) anyways we was all out having fun at just girls night when he wanted to come with so I said OK whatever, well we all started joking saying I was wife 1 n she was wife 2 (she has a lot going on dealing with her x baby daddy). Told him straight up no texting or messaging wife 2 unless its public, well he did anyways n I confronted her. She said she thought I knew, and that she would screen shot me the messages if I wanted. told her no, then jumped him about it n he said he would stop but I still feel like he hasn't. n I'm unsure if I want to no

I gave the same dilemma I jus know if I do I'll either spend the next couple hours crying or trying to kill him