hi I'm 9 weeks pregnant. When can we find out the gender?

It depends. But I found out at 12 weeks which is really early, and they confirmed the gender again at 20 weeks

usually at your 20 week u/s, but ive seen it range between 16-20 weeks

I found out at 20 weeks

I found out at 15 weeks. got it confirmed again at 19 weeks

I was going to try n find out the gender within 5 weeks or so. Should I wait longer then?

It's safest and most positive at 20 weeks and after.

And by safest I mean not having the is it really or not feeling