some guys think counseling is dumb and for crazy people. but you guys obviously have issues that can't be worked out the way you have been doing things. do you have an unbiased mutual friend or someone in your family can mediate while you dish everything out?

no he refuses to do it @emily18234

I don't believe once a cheater always a cheater, but with him, it's a pattern. have you guys tried counseling

I do also... Not his fault my ex also cheated caught him more than once still stayed... Was with him 9.5 years... Found out later it was going on the entire relationship.

yeah my boyfriend cheated on me when we first were together and that was 4 years ago and like 8 months ago I found out he was texting this girl he met from the bar and every time he goes out now I always start a fight and swear he is cheating @emily18234

I do, but it's not his fault. my ex husband cheated on me our entire relationship and I never even suspected until the 1 time he got sloppy.