How do i tell my mom i do not want her in the delivery room without hurting her feelings? 😫 i only want me and my SO in there...
@tahtahme, I'll have to try that .. @leighannandsean. this isn't her first it's her 4th my mom is very controlling
@leighannandsean, yes tell your nurse that you only want your SO back there and they will kick everyone out saying that there's only one person allowed during delivery.
Do you know if you can have it to where the nurse says only one person and i chose my SO? @tahtahme
I already been straight up with her once and she was like think about it and blah blah.... Like as soon as she said it i wasnt thinkin and laughed a little and was like uhhhh no. @mommyof1wit1otw @vannahjaime
Tbh, I am just gonna have the nurses say the only people on the list are my doulas and husband. Sneaky, maybe, but sorry not sorry. The hospital I am at has a huge waiting room with lots of comfy seats and as many people as want to can show up and chill there I don't give a damn but you all ain't squeezing in my room, I will say that much! Even my mother. Even my siblings. No thank you. @southernbelle00 @maciecakes @leighannandsean
Shes the only one trying to be in there and my dad and his wife dont get along with her and they understand that its mine and his moment so the sitting down thing wouldnt work lol. @mommyof1wit1otw
I already told her once and she said "are you serious its my first grandbaby""i can stand where i dont see anything" @southernbelle00 i dont wanna hurt her feelings bc weve always had a bumpy relationship but i just dont want anybody else in there.....
me husband and I just sat every one down and told them we wanted just us in there for our last few minutes of alone time.
@leighannandsean, when I brought it up she for mad and said she didn't want anything to do with my baby
Just tell her it's a special moment between the two of you and she will see her as soon as she's born it WILL hurt her feelings no matter what but it's your choice and she has to respect it
U can't...it will hurt either way...she just has to respect it. I told my mom and she was in the room until it was time to deliver and she waited outside of the door. she didn't like it but she respected our decision. we let her back in after we had bonding time.
As nicely as possible haha I feel the same way. So I just sat my mom down and told her I don't really want to bare it all to anyone I don't have to..that the only reason my SO will be there is because he helped make the baby. Just explain your reasoning. she's your mom she'll understand. you may even change your mind when you get to the hospital and feel like you're dying. Even though I'm 23 years old when i had surgery the first thing I did after waking up was ask for my mother. theyre comforting people xD
Nurses will comply they don't care at all! 😊