Hahaha I would :) Of course!! They're to easy sometimes :)

Woohoo!! Anytime. Glad I could help :) @baiceleste

I love that! he liked the chart I made too and said is my name gonna be on there? And I said maybe so I probably should just put it on there! haha. the kids are alllllll about cleaning right now...Now that stickers and prizes are involved! Haha yess. success! thanks for the helpful tips :) @mom-09-16

Give it a shot. Men don't like to be told they can't do what we do haha ;) Yeah when you tell kids you're throwing away their favorite things then they're all about cleaning :) haha. I got my son a roll of raffle tickets, when he does his chores and picks up his stuff he gets a ticket, but if he's bad i get to take the tickets away. Then i have a little "treasure chest" he can buy toys with the tickets or he can save them for like a day to the zoo or a kids place. It works pretty good. Men are sensitive. I would put his name on the chart and then use the kids...be like ohhh Dad didn't do his chores he's in trouble!! That way he has to do them to set a good example for the kids :) @baiceleste

yeah definitely not break up worthy for,me because other than this our relationship is pretty awesome! but I really like the betting him he can't do it idea and see how he takes it. I've also thought about throwing away (or just hiding) a lot of the toys in our toy room and the cool stuff until the kids learn to appreciate and take care of their nice things by putting them away. in going to try a chore chart for the kids and have them earn their toys back kinda like a reward system. my bf is just mad that I'm getting so mad about it and accusing him of doing nothing (not what I said to him) and now he feels unappreciated. :/ which of course makes me feel bad cuz no one deserves to feel like that but that wasn't what I said to him and it doesn't change that I was simply asking for help and a happy medium... maybe I'll put his name on the kids chore chart! haha! but really... I think I'm gonna have to do what my mom did. which was write out each person's name and a list of chores for them to do when they get home including myself and if things don't get accomplished then I'll have to take away privileges like tv time or one of their fave fun activities. it's harder with the man though because I don't think I could necessarily take away things from him.. that wouldn't go over well haha @mom-09-16

That's when you tell him it's his fault nothing's done. You shouldn't be doing that much. Make him write down everything he does and you do the same and show him what it's like! Or make a bet with him that he can't do everything you do in a day. See how he handles it :) I just had to freak out to get help at my house. I was at the end of my rope I was pissed. Nobody wanted to do anything at my house and I was sitting there puking my guts out literally all day long and no one but my son even tried to help. I hated how messy my house was but I couldn't even stand up without getting sick. I wouldn't let anyone come over. When I finally got feeling a little better I started throwing shit away. I just told them wish you would have cleaned up now Huh!? I didn't make them dinner or do their laundry and I took my laundry soap and everything i had bought. I don't get how "family" can be so terrible. I had enough with my boyfriend and unfortunately he had to go bye bye. I couldn't deal with it. Not that I'm suggesting that at all. He had lots of issues. Hope something works for you! :) @baiceleste

@mom-09-16, I stopped doing things one time and that brought on more complaining and then somehow it turned into "you never cook dinner "(whiney man voice) or you're always too tired to clean, or this house is a disaster why haven't you been cleaning it then somehow I'm the bad guy for giving myself a break. I've been waking up early all week to clean every morning and it's really taking a toll on me... and seeing the mess when I come home from work erks me sooo much and just makes me feel like a lazy parent/girlfriend :(

I like that idea @mamabee we do lots of pizza nights too, or at least once/week and those nights are the best nights:) haha I just don't know why men feel the need to have US do everything for them like as if we're their mommies too. I don't mind doing things for the kids because it's my nature and they're my kids so of course! but him... a perfectly able man for some reason gets the whiniest when I say I don't feel like cooking because I'm too busy cleaning and worked a half hour over my shift. it's like... you've been home for 3 hours... I know you've sat down and played on your phone for at least an hour, got a shower, a workout in, and got to have fun and play with the kids.... ALL things I miss out on doing. it actually makes me sad when he doesn't help me. that he can't see me struggling and think I want to make her happy and help.. even if it's the tiniest thing, just SOMETHING.

Sometimes you just have to stop doing stuff for them to notice how much you actually do. It's tough :( @baiceleste

@baiceleste, I had the same issues before my maternity leave. I noticed having everything ready for them to cook dinner helps or putting stuff in the crockpot before I left for work. I started having lots of pizza nights too!😜