JUST THINKING & A LITTLE CURIOUS--A lot of people think me & my fiancé should get married ASAP now…
JUST THINKING & A LITTLE CURIOUS--A lot of people think me & my fiancé should get married ASAP now that we are having a baby. I know it's the "right thing" to do, but we just don't feel like just because we are having a baby we should get married right away, we want to wait it out a while longer so we are sure we are making the right choice. I mean we basically are married, we've lived together for 2 1/2-3 years, we have our own place, and have a family started. The only difference is we don't have a piece of paper stating we are married. Why does it matter anyways?
Sarah Drew·
Мама двоих (младенец)
I personally don't think a baby should be the reason to get married, my husband (was my boyfriend at the time) had talked about marriage but we hadn't done anything about it.... I got pregnant and rather than get married while pregnant (some people would have said the only reason he married me was because of our son) we waited, our son was 10 months old when we got married and he was our ring bearer
missing145user·
That's how everyone is being with us. This is my second child, and we've been living together for a while. He proposed to me last year in July, but we haven't really talked about marriage. Everyone keeps saying we should just go and get married right now since were "playing house" whatever that means. But marriage isn't a thing we have to have right now. Nor are we wanting it any time soon. Some people just don't understand that though I guess, Idk. 😂
Savannah·
I mean it's just a piece of paper, and it legal.. I really don't see the difference other than the fuller commitments. A lot of couples are happier & last longer without being married anyhow.
deleted-user·
If it makes you feel better, I'm not even engaged & we're having a baby. We live together & have been together 2 years. No need to rush, but I do want to be married to him eventually.
Elizabeth·
Мама дочки (4 года)
I would wait I rushed into a marriage because I was pregnant because my family forced me into it even though I had been dating my boyfriend for a while and now were divorced so rushing isn't the way to go if things are fine the way they are I would just leave it as is
Danielle·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
my fiance and I are now legally married in secret, but the ceremony that everyone will know about is in a year and a half or so
Nicole Matthews·
@firsttimemommy221, do not get married just because of the child. that's not an appropriate reason to dedicate your life to someone. being in love and wanting to spend your lives together with or without a kid is.
dylisha·
Мама двоих (1 год, 9 лет), ждёт третьего
usually marrying bc of a baby doesn't work out. Its almost like force love. Do it when you're ready.
Savannah·
That's what we agree upon, we love each other just not ready for the "married life" as some say.
Jennifer·
В ожидании первенца
Me and my fiancé found out we were pregnant and I am actually 4 months. He just proposed. Everyone keeps asking if we are getting married before the baby, but like you, I don't need a paper to prove anything or a rush to get married because a baby. We will get married a year or so after the baby is here. I believe you should do whatever you and your fiancé are comfortable with and want. If y'all are happy with the way things are why change it until you're ready?
Savannah·
I'm glad I'm not the only one that thinks this way. A lot of people look down upon it because the baby is Convinced out of wedlock