So I need some womanly insight since I know what I'm about to say is safe and secure here. I have a…
So I need some womanly insight since I know what I'm about to say is safe and secure here. I have a guy friend that I have known for about 7 or 8 years now. My friend recently announced that he is going to be a father. I've seen from Facebook that he is (or at least was) in a relationship. Well, it's been a few weeks since he announced his news and I thought it was a bit curious that he hasn't been posting ultrasounds or baby updates like proud parents usually do. I messaged him to see how he is doing because he and I used to be close and I was excited that we are both having kids around the same time. He messaged me back and told me that he's dealing with a bit of drama. The baby's mother took off recently after finding out she's pregnant and hasn't contacted him nor has he had any information on the progress of the child. As a woman, it sounds to me like her getting pregnant really freaked her out...and I'm afraid she may end the pregnancy without his knowledge. Overall, it is her body and if she doesn't want a baby, that's her choice. I'm just worried about how this is going to devastate him. Now, I'm asking in your opinion, what does this situation sound like to you?
BANNED - lakin worley - hilliard·
Мама дочки (2 года)
except it isn't her choice. its murder. he has a say.
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like @lakilucid said she can't do it without his consent too. she can legally get into trouble if she terminates the pregnancy since she told him about it. it may be her body but like she said he has a say too
Melina Adams·
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Currently, he legally doesn't have a say. I don't agree with it as well, but I can't have a clear opinion on the matter since I think abortions should be afforded to women who were victims of rape or incest. However, there's really no way to decipher the two currently. Now, I'm not asking about opinions on abortion. I'm asking what people think this woman may be thinking. I'm asking opinions of why would she run. Please stick to that.
Shay·
Мама двоих (5 лет, 8 лет), ждёт третьего
That's a tough one, especially since you don't know her very well. It does sound like she got scared and took off..but I wouldn't think she would have told him at all if she had the slightest inclination of abortion. That's a horrible situation either way. :/ @melina.a.613
Kandess·
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Maybe it did freak her out. Maybe she ran off to clear her head, pregnancy no matter who you are is a big shocker especially if it was unplanned. Your responsible for a little human being. Maybe she's thinking if she can be responsible enough, if she is ready for the changes ahead for the future. I don't think she is trying to hurt him maybe she is trying to find answers herself. The big one AM I READY TO RAISE A CHILD?
Myra·
Мама сына (1 год)
She could have gotten scared and went off to have an abortion, she also could have left to try and clear her head and calm herself down and work herself through this major change without the extra influence from your friend.
She also could have been planning to end the relationship and then found out she was pregnant and decided to leave anyways.
She might have cheated on your friend and it could be someone else's baby and she panicked and left.
She also may just be one of those people who just wants to raise her children by herself, I know a woman who prefers that and has 5 kids and happily raises then and works and provides for them and that's what she prefers.
There are several possibilities.
Gwendolyn Paschal·
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I'm curious if she knows who the father is..
Melina Adams·
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@boymama, @kandielion101 @chhaya See, I didn't think of it like that. All the things you ladies mentioned could very well be true. There is obviously nothing anyone can do, but I wanted to entertain possibilities. My friend will obviously be the one to deal with this but I wanted to put myself in her situation. @gcpaschal I didn't think of that either, she could have cheated and knows he will find out...
Gwendolyn Paschal·
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Usually women don't run from maybe wanting an abortion. They run when they have no clue who the father is.
pattalee·
Мама сына (1 год), беременна (36 нед.)
while I agree with the fact that aborting the pregnancy is murder, it is in fact her choice and he has no say in whether she terminates or not. there are no laws stating otherwise. men have no control over a womans decisions or body. it is 100% her decision and she does not need his consent. I do also think, however, that he has a right to know of her decision. that being said, she probably doesn't know who the father is or she doesn't want to know. but if she already told him that it's his, and she's keeping it, he has every right to know about the babys progress and he take her to court for it.
Jennifer Stough·
Мама сына (5 лет), беременна (32 нед.)
Chances are they probably had problems in their relationship before finding out she was pregnant, and instead of sticking it out to drag a child through it, she just left. He could have cheated on her and now she wants nothing to do with him. Normally when a woman leaves a relationship while pregnant and decides to drop off the grid to the father it's because 1- he hurt her and she isn't mature enough to draw a line between herself and his right to the baby, or 2- the relationship was flaky before the oregnancy and she doesn't want to tough it out.
BANNED - lakin worley - hilliard·
Мама дочки (2 года)
@arijane316, actually there are laws now stating he has a say. all he has to do is talk to a magistrate and tell them about his unborn child and fight her. she must remain pregnant until custody is arranged. not her choice at all. its not anyone's choice.
Melina Adams·
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He does not have a legal say in the state he is in. This isn't Roe vs. Wade.