so my father left two shot gun shells on my living room table to send a message to my boyfriend that he's only a phone…

Your boyfriend sounds sensitive and like he doesn't have a sense of humor 😑 he has no reason to be mad at you. @teesheart

shoot let him leave. maybe he'll realize he got mad over nothing and come back

exactly what they said!!

I admit my dad is an ass hole at times but I've never seen my boyfriend this mad @boymama @vrf04042016

he might be threatened by your dad which is a good thing you dont ever want a man to think he can pull something over on you and get away with it. your dad sounds protective and thats a good thing since youre pregnant but if your bf has this bad of problem then he should talk one on one with your dad and get everything out in the open with out fighting

that's what I said but All he wants to do is leave

it's be a constant push and pull with those two since we started dating I don't know what to do anymore @vrf04042016

well he's gonna be connected to you now with the baby and all so one of them has to man up and realize whether they like it or not they are going to be in each others lives for a long time

Maybe it's more than just your dad? Maybe he's afraid of the commitment a child brings. Let him leave. Let him know that he doesn't have to be a part of your life, but he does have to be a part of his child's. You're a strong woman. You don't need him. But your child does.

he wants to be in the child's life but I honestly don't trust it

if he leaves I feel like he's gonna find someone new and not want anything to do with me or the baby @lilythewasp

I'm just speaking from experience. I honestly thought the same thing last time I was pregnant. And when we broke up, I let him know that even if we didn't get back together, he was gonna be there for his child either on his own or by court ordered child support. We eventually got back together. He was just afraid of being a dad and thought leaving would mean he didn't have to be responsible. Whatever the case with your guy, it doesn't have to work out between you two for him to be involved with your child.

have you tried putting yourself in his shoes? what if his mom did something that made you uncomfortable. maybe he feels like you put your father above him bc you dismiss how he feels.

I never dismissed how he felt I just don't get why he's upset with me @nini22

did you say anything to your father about what he did? maybe your boyfriend just wants you to stick up for him. protective dads can certainly feel intimidating.

it literally just happened this morning

and my father is a grown man I can't tell him what to do @nini22

As a guy, your boyfriend should understand that's fathers are ALWAYS going to be very over protective over their daughters! My daddy has done and said crazy shit to my boyfriend all the time & my boyfriend kind of laughs at it. I'm sure he would be the same way with his daughter when he has one. Daddy's just want everyone to know that if they hurt us, they're going to die. That's all. Lol.

your dad is always going to be your dad. no matter what he's the best example of a man in anyone's life. if a guy threatens you with leaving that means some part of him really wants that. bye Felicia life's already difficult you don't need someone else is stress

it's about showing respect. you and your boyfriend are also grown adults so I know I would be upset if for example his mom was doing something similar. parents have to have boundaries as well. and out of respect I would hope my dad would understand that he can't just do whatever he wants bc I want to make things work with my child's father and just to avoid me having to deal with problems that didn't have to happen in the first place.

hmmm. in a way I understand your bf BC I wouldn't want to be threatened in my own home. finding gun shells. your dad could have had a talk with him instead of leaving something threatening behind

Again everyone is coming down on me I don't need strangers judging how I handle my situation with my father because neither one know the half of what I've been through @paisleysmom @nini22

I'm only giving what you asked for. an opinion based strictly on the information you provided. never said I knew your situation. sorry if it hurt your feelings. I was just trying to help.

He have no reason to be mad at u. Honestly I think he was just lookin for a reason to leave so let him leave. He will be back tho don't stress urself about it but at one point and time u need to sit him and ur dad down to talk

If he treats you right he should have no reason to be scared and besides your dad did it not you.