I really need someone to talk to.. Since we found out we are pregnant, a week ago, my spouse is acting like his high school days self. Right now I just need support and positivity and I feel like I'm getting the opposite. I am starting to think about scheduling my 1st doctors appointment. But we are supposed to get married so I can get on his insurance. He hasn't mentioned it once and when I do it gets brushed off. I tell him I'm feeling uncomfortable and bloated and he says negative things like "you've only been pregnant for a week" and gives no sympathy for me. He has gotten drunk or drank alcohol ever single night. He has passed out in the living room so many time, doesn't come to bed when I try to wake him. Two weeks ago we were avid partiers, so having all this around me is so frustrating! Yesterday when he got home from work he spent the whole evening on his phone(Facebook). Then had his friends come over at 11pm. Partied all night. Stayed past 2am. He told me last night he had so much fun they are doing it all over again tonight. Then to top it off I woke up this morning to him sleeping in the couch, and he peed himself!
I'm starting to seriously contemplate if this pregnancy is coming at a wrong time. I question if he's ready for this responsibility.
He's always been so responsible and supportive. I feel like this will be my life, worrying about my husband and trying to control him and a child. Ugh this is so hard.
My SO did the same thing, he's started coming around though. He's even bought some baby clothes which I was surprised about.
it takes some guys until the baby is born to show interest. I know it blows but that's how my baby's dad was but my baby was born two days ago and he seems really interested and loves her so much.
Mid Life crisis? Guys do this when they find out that for the rest of their life, they have a HUGE responsibility.
It's a bit early, and he's probably overwhelmed. Trying to figure out a man will leave you with your gears broken lol Maybe come to him a little less demanding (that's the only word I can think of, but it isn't an insult, I swear I'm trying to help) & let him know how you feel. Men can be really put off by pregnancy in general, especially when we women are more senitive and begin to react immediately to what we feel. We are wired differently in that aspect and it makes friction.
Also, under no circumstances should you be worried about "controlling" him or the child. You'll be learning as a family to CARE FOR each other how you need to be cared fpr, but "control" is something we can only have over ourselves.
Thanks ladies 😊