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I have an 8yr old but before him I had a stillbirth; my daughter, it's been 9yrs and trust me things don't get better…

I have an 8yr old but before him I had a stillbirth; my daughter, it's been 9yrs and trust me things don't get better just easier (time has shown me that) fast forward to now I am married expecting my first baby with my husband... but my sons pregnancy was not easy! I was stressed, the anxiety of losing him was hard. This pregnancy is no different. I can't get excited for fear of losing the baby, i can't go pee without thinking 'is this it? will i see blood?' every doctors appt i think what if i hear those words that still resonate in my head 'there is no heartbeat' but what bothers me the most is his family doesn't get it!!! they are over the moon and i get it, it's his first child but dammit respect the fact that if i want to keep in the down low for now you need to respect that! next thing i know i have extended family texting congrats! they are sending pictures of cribs and strollers, planning a baby shower! STOP!!! i want to yell and scream!! his sister giving me deadlines by March you should know the sex i need to know the sex for this and that.. and i want to yell 'listen let me get to March first!!' they think i am exaggerating but unless you gave birth to your dead child there is no way you will understand... they only build on my anxiety and i just don't know how to make them slow down.... sorry; end of rant😭😭😭

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esthelaaa

christine

i dont understand at all. but fear is dangerous and the cause of anxiety. its a dangerous cycle. and it can cause stress which isnt good for you at all. you have to try and stay positive. everyday is another day. a goal.. you have to let your self enjoy being pregnant. try and flip your thinking and say this is it. im pregnant with a healthy baby and nothing is going to happen ! nourish your body and thoughts !

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soraya28

claudiaМама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого

I know how you feel i lost my bby when i was 24 weeks pregnant and it was really hard,, rite now i feel the same way u do rite now am 2 1/2 month pregnant again and am really scared there is no day with out me praying and asking God to take care of me and my bby 😔😔

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nissii1994

AnaisВ ожидании первенца

I understand you 100%. I had a miscarriage at about 12 weeks found out at 6weeks as soon as we found out we told my mother in law and she told everyone but when it was confirmed we were devastated and didn't know how to tell people. I just found out I was pregnant 2 days ago and I don't wanna get excited it sucks but I wanna wait till I hear a heart beat and might share the news at 12 weeks. Just stay positive enjoy your pregnancy ( I'm trying to do as I preach) happy healthy fun loving 9 months to us

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dohmommy2016

SaraВ ожидании первенца

That's really frustrating they definitely should be more understanding of your feelings and what you went through. /: family can be so frustrating sometimes!

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Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday…

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?