Also, I learned this from the father of my two boys, men will distance themselves after a birth of a child. My exhusband did this with both of our sons, he was worse the second go around because he got laid off earlier in the year. Anyways, it's normal for him to be a little... different. Try to find things that you can both enjoy together at home, maybe while baby is sleeping or something. Express yourself to him. He may seem like he doesn't care but men aren't built to show very much emotion. He's listening and he hears you. Communication is everything in a relationship and yall are so young, you need to talk to each other.

Sorry I didn't mean like "husband" just use to saying that cuz I'm married lol that doesn't matter if you are married or not 😄

My fiancé works a lot too. I maybe get 3.5 hours a day with him and sometimes all day Sunday. He comes home, plays games on his phone, is horribly fucking moody and then goes to sleep and is cranky if he isn't asleep by 10PM. Which is usually his own doing but when he wants sex or wants to be sweet it's on HIS time. I do a lot, I take care of our 2 boys, he always has a hot meal, NEVER has to clean, I even lay out his work clothes. He can't even fucking throw his own little keurig cups away in the morning. The most I ask him to do is take out the trash. I called off going and talking to the Deacon about getting married this evening, because we aren't ready. I've been married once before and until we can sit down and talk about this shit, I'm not getting married.

So no, you aren't being too harsh. My fiancé went from loving to whatever this is and I haven't even popped the baby out. Am I being mistreated? No, but I'm giving him A LOT of time to adjust to a life HE CHOSE.

And I understand that he has to come home and wind down. I don't expect him to come to bed as soon as he gets off.

Ya he might be having a little crisis. Yes I would be extremely mad what is he reason to these extreme decisions?

We are both 18 & unmarried. Though wouldn't you want your partner to talk to you before making rather big decision.. It just feels like he doesn't value me or my thoughts as much as I do his.. I love him dearly I don't know it's just been hard this last month.. @edomke

Also if he is working a lot like my husband sometimes they need time to unwind from a long work day

I would obviously talk to him but also give him some time. My husband went through like a post pardon depression stage after Patrick for like the first two months. Having a baby is very life changing not only for you but your husband. Give him a chance to grow up. My husband was 20 when we had Patrick and I was 21 it can be hard at a young age