@mrsremack, alternate care? what do you mean? I can't predict the future but I don't plan on taking more than 2 weeks off if I'm working during the time I deliver. I would tell them this. And hopefully that will give them a sense of comfort knowing I plan on working as soon as I can. I will be exhausted but that's motherhood
As a former nanny myself I totally get your conflict but I would say just be respectful of the fact that they will need to find alternate care eventually, at least for right after you deliver, and that most families are understanding as long as you are honest and upfront with them. Not at all saying to tell them yet but if it were to come up also be sure you are not deceptive as that will ruin their trust and any possibility of good recommendations later.
I do this, too😂😂😂nobody knows I'm pregnant just my sister, daughter and father of my child. It's not wrong what you're doing. You'll tell them when you're ready is all, lol
I'm not telling my work yet either. I've just been wearing baggy shirts or coats. I'm a nanny and not far along yet though so it's pretty easy haha I do have bad bloat though!