just want to vent for a second. so my bd and i have been broken up for a few months now because he…

they'll laugh at him no job still live with mom n he has the nerve to bring up custody no offense umm no worries he not getting her 50/50 maybe but she won't be taking from you I don't even know why he would bring the court in it not like y'all not on good terms or can't get along

chances are he will NOT get 50/50 he would have to support himself and everything else. he will get visitation most likely but not joint custody that's just stupid and really confuses the child@anniewakeen

@hermommy Thanks i needed to hear that. It just worries me because I just am not sure how all that court stuff works with custody but im just trying to stay positive

They won't take your baby away without cause, especially when she is little and totally dependant on you.

@misstoyou thanks. It does kinda sound silly but i dont want it to get messy fighting over her ya know. just wish we could work things out..

@missytoyou,

girl my dad pulled that bull with my mom when I was first born, the judge laughed at him and started him out with visitation every other weekend then really laughed bc he came back and tried to sign his rights to me over. the judge sides with mom. honestly the best way to make sure he doesn't try anything. breast feed, that makes it illegal for him to take baby anywhere with out your consent bc you are her food source:)@anniewakeen that goes for anyone

yes totally understand

@hermommy thats something i was concerned about too because i do plan on breastfeeding. i brought that up to him too and he said to bottle it up when he has her or hell just use formula while shes with him.

he can't do that and the judge won't let him lol. does he even think with his brain? that would mess up the babys stomach and could also cause her to get tounge tied or confused@anniewakeen you have nothing to worry about girl. visitatio. is the most he will get

yeah you're definitely right about that lol. i feel a lot better about this now. i honestly was thinking of meeting a lawyer just to start a fighting chance but i think i got this 😇😇 @hermommy

you do, most judges don't believe in 50/50 they expect y'all to work it out. but especially whe. she gets school age they won't have th at @anniewakeen

@missytoyou, I'm in a very similar situation and my daughter is almost 8 months old and I'm still in court. Please feel free to message me with any questions or concerns about this. I would love to be of as much help as I possibly can be.

sorry I ment to send that to @anniewakeen

lol I was like Huh? lol @mamanelson23

@hermommy, what do you mean when she gets to school age? like theyre more leaneant* with it ?

I'm rather tired as my monkey is sick so she just fell asleep after not napping today at all lol

@mamthank you i will probably take you up on that offer lol. has it worked out for you so far?

oops @mamanelson23

like 5-18 they want her in a stable home and he will only hav visitation on weekends unless he ask you otherwise, they don't play with education you have nothing to worry about :)@anniewakeen

ohh i see what you're saying now. That will hopefully most likely be the case i mean i have my own house and im still working fulltime and about to start school again too for cna classes. hopefully they'll see how much I'm trying and its all for her. @hermommy

you have nothing to worry about. your the kmkine stable parent and on top of that your mom, they don't take children from their mother's unless they're severely unfit. that's not the case he's just mad bc he wants her but doesnt want to fix the relationship which is wrong@anniewakeen

@anniewakeen, I am currently winning lol. But I noticed that you do not live in Minnesota and that may make a difference in our cases as Minnesota is known for being a "mother's state"

I think he needs to prove he's capable of being able to provide for the baby if he wants 50/50. amd since you said he has no job it's unlikely that has gonna be able to do so.

@mamanelson23, well im glad your currently winning lol but yes i live in wisconsin so youre right it might be a little different..

yeah he does have a lot to work on!! @marleas.mommy