I'm so aggravated with people's fixation on mixed/biracial babies. I just told this random woman in IHOP off. "Ohhhh your baby will be a heartbreaker! Those mixed babies always are." It just rubbed me wrong. My husband shrugged it off but I've become more and more irritated as people continue to fetishize skin and hair. 😧 Ajani's gonna be a baby, loved and cherished. Not because he's mixed--which he is, and that's not a secret nor shame--but because he's our son. We didn't pick his name based on his skin. We aren't picking his clothes based on how "mixed" boys should look. (Explain that one...shouldn't all little boys be dressed comfortably, appropriately, and neatly?!) We aren't concerned about his hair, and my husband will decide when it's time to cut it. #endRant
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EXACTLY!!! @lilfree16 Lord KNOWS I loves me some chocolatey me. 😂 But people who hate themselves are never quite comfortable around us who don't, they don't know how to box us in or handle our glow. My fair is life BROOM STRAW LMBO I have to keep it moisturized or it feels like an old broom left in the sun. Length is whatever, this stuff is crazy.
i want a chocolate baby soo badly! but i told my friend that might not happen.. i might get a non chocolatey baby.. she as like oh mm well i guess that can happen.. for someone who is a biology major and suck at it.. i know how genetics work. ihave 4 different hair textures lol one side is way thicker than the other .. lol I just wish I was darker!!. its something about dark skin.. from what i noticed its always the darker ones being soo damn ignorant too.. like just because you hate yourself dont knock me for loving my dark brown glow .. =)
@lilfree16, thank you lol I'm all blotchy today, compliments WELCOME anyway 😄 I catch hell about my hair, but most people assuming I have to have "something else" never saw my mom. (She also had VERY long hair, mid-back and lush!) You're absolutely correct tho, and I'm letting these folks know early, WE AIN'T HAVIN' IT LOL
oops i was about to say i love your skin tone. . =/ yeah i hate that or when you dont fit the description of the typical black person they automatically assume your mixed.. or let your skin tone be a tad lighter than whats considered black.. you have to be mixed.. im telling you its white supremacy & systematic racism.. but thats for a another day lol
@peaceinfall, it is just weird to me. Like, the assumptions and stuff people make just on skin and hair? I'm baffled. I'm not a fetish to my husband, he's not a fetish to me, and we didn't have a baby just because it would be soooo cute to strangers. 😩
That just made me smile soooooo much!!! I wish I would have been smart enough to say something like that growing up. I just politely smiled and went about my day
@rhonda.otero she corrects them lol "I'm not just a pretty Black girl, I'm a pretty girl. I have a good heart and I'm smart and respectful."
Lol thank god! I didn't like it when people used to tell me you are so pretty to be so dark. Like wtf does that mean? Because I'm dark skinned I am expected to be ugly and I surprised you? Lol I promise sometimes compliments are actually insults and they don't realize it... I heard that so much that I cringe when I hear it or see it now. Like the post going around Facebook saying she is albino but she's still pretty like wtf does that mean?!?!!? She's just pretty! Leave it at that.
@rhonda.otero, she shrugs it off WAY better than I do because it's usually people telling her how pretty she is OR telling her how gorgeous her hair is. (we are both natural, and when straightened it's as long as mine!!!) I'm usually restrained but oy vey...
Yeah it's going to be hard... I pray your oldest stays strong because people are ignorant and even though both my kids are biracial sometimes kids don't believe my son and daughter are siblings when they say that's my sister or whatever... I don't think I will ever be used to it honestly. For about the first 4-5 months I had perfect strangers tell me they switched my son at birth, that he wasn't mine because he was extremely pale with blue eyes and honestly that shit crushed my feelings every time I heard it, that was my first born and I heard it allll the time. So I guess I became really sensitive but for my kids sake I don't snap on people like I did before they could talk lol I try to politely walk away and ignore it
I'm used to it (we have 4 other biracial kids--our nieces and nephews we adopted are Black and Indian as well) but I can't get with it, if that makes sense @rhonda.otero And even worse, my daughter is a chocolate drop and people are FOREVER either putting her on some pedestal OR "pitying" her because she's "different" than the other kids. I'm becoming a mama bear about it these days. My younger niece is shy as is, she doesn't like it.
It will be a lifetime of that... It goes both ways. I've had people ask me in front of my kids at a park you don't want a baby that looks like you? I said both my children look like me! They may not be my skin color but you can tell they are a product of me and their father as is every kid... Then you have the ohhhh those mixed babies are so cute you need to keep having them... How about my babies are just cute! Mixed or not they are going to be cute to me. Being biracial doesn't define them or their beauty.
lmaooo girl let me NOT put anything in my hair lol this jawn will dry up like a brillo pad.. i havent really been taking care or my hair since i cut it off for the police Academy 2 years ago.. and i hear the bs from my fiance everyday about my hair lol oh well natuarl is alot of work and im lazy.. double strand and go