So Saturday is my baby shower. My boyfriend and all his friends are going out while us girls do our…

I understand it's your baby shower but I'd be pretty upset if people ignored my birthday because of a baby shower that I wasn't even attending. I mean, they're going out to do their own thing. It's not the actual baby shower so don't worry about it. If he was trying to get drunk at your baby shower I understand but you're the one that made it the same day as his birthday. Some people really enjoy their birthdays. No big deal.

just say it flat out. that night is about you and your man not him. if he wants to celebrate his birthday he can go somewhere else with other people.

Just because we planned it on his birthday doesn't mean he has to make it all about him when it's more about us.

@arijane316, thank you for understanding that part. I guess some people can't understand that. And he should know cause he's a father. He had his night out before he became a father. But he just chooses partying over everything and likes stuff to be about him.

people have birthdays every year. it should never be a problem to push your birthday back. this is your baby shower, and you should have it the way you want. I think he's just acting a fool and acting like a baby. I never made my birthday a big deal. but just wasn't raised like that. I was happy with my small family gathering and my moms home made cake. still till this day. and if people are busy that day, I have no problem to make to where it works for them.

for my baby shower, I actually had everyone there, guys as well. the guys hungout side in the back talking and drinking beer. even if they get drunk. no one was acting a fool. I had mine early. and it was a really great day.

@shannaa24, everyone is mad that I am having it so late. Well my mom works at ford and her hours are crazy and I was trying to make it work around her so she could come. She is making my cake. Exactly, everyone has a birthday every year don't make this stuff about you. I guess it just kinda upset me and rubbed me the wrong way.

@tifftilton94, so its your husband that's acting like this? he's going to be a father. he needs to calm down and do this baby shower with you. my husband never acted like that. he was never out drinking, or needed to have a party for his birthday. after work he may go have a beer with his dad but that's it. this time. it's the same way. he never drinks. he knew I couldn't with my first so he chose not too. maybe he'll calm down after the baby is born. he's got some growing up to do. he can do his birthday party another night.

I think your husband should talk to the friend and just say that he's sorry that his baby celebration ended up on the same day as friends birthday and that her love to throw him a proper celebration next weekend since this Saturday is about the Baby. If the friend doesn't take the hint then He can go to say that he understands if friend doesn't want to come with it being he's birthday and all but the main focus is going to be him becoming a father.

@shannaa24, no this is our friend that is acting like this. Our friend and his girlfriend are jealous of us cause we are having our first baby and they want another one cause there son won't get the attention that he gets now later after our daughter is born.

@tifftilton94, o poo. this is yours and your husbands time. they can both go on somewhere. don't let them interfere with your shower or your life. once you have a kid. everything changes. you won't care much about everyone else's problems. she's already had a kid. this is your shining moment. you and your husband shouldn't be treated bad for them not being able to have another kid.

@shannaa24, they don't see it that way though. Everything has to be around them and if not than they will find a way to make it all about them.

@tifftilton94, that's real shitty of them and your friends. doesn't really sound like their good friends.

be that bitch then lol tell him if he's gonna be a dick take the spot light away from you on your night at your party he can go elsewhere.