Dakota Marie
oberynsmommie
Dakota Marie·Мама сына (9 лет)

Am I selfish at the fact that I don't want mine and my boyfriends family except our mothers coming to the hospital after we have the baby? Like we are both first time parents so I want us to get into the swing of being parents before actually inviting our family to come meet our son

14.01.2016
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autumn
Autumn Heie·Мама дочки (9 лет)

We do, but in small doses. She's too much of an attention seeker and often refers to my baby as hers. I just feel like she'd bring such negativity to the room and make it all about her. But I know, and they act so offended and like they have a part in it. No, I've been carrying this child the last 40 weeks, you've texted me a few times to see how I am. It's not equal haha

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searrahmone
Searrah Hines·Мама дочки (9 лет)

@autumn, you and his mom don't get along? People act like they're going to miss something if they don't see the baby right away.

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searrahmone
Searrah Hines·Мама дочки (9 лет)

I can't 😩. They're seriously annoying. They should totally understand what it's like then. Plus you owe them nothing. Not everyone wants the whole world there right after they have their baby. I always ask new mommies when they would they be ready for visitors. I hate people who just pop up as soon as you push the baby out. Maybe you can get your mom to talk to his mom?

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oberynsmommie
Dakota Marie·Мама сына (9 лет)

@searrahmone, that's the thing ! They've all had children 2-3 per person! So when it come to this I'd like to enjoy the new mother feeling like they each got when they had their first. They feel like for some reason they are more entitled to our baby than my family

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searrahmone
Searrah Hines·Мама дочки (9 лет)

Nope. I wouldn't be apologizing! This is my child and I'm going to do what I see fit in the recovery stage of me giving birth and caring for my baby. People feel so entitled to everything. If they're so worried tell them to have their own children lol

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oberynsmommie
Dakota Marie·Мама сына (9 лет)

@searrahmone, I had his mother tell me to apologize to his sisters for hurting their feelings cause I said I didn't want anyone visiting

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autumn
Autumn Heie·Мама дочки (9 лет)

I really don't want anyone at the hospital either. I only want my mom there but unfortunately his mom will have to come too. But the idea of people already bombarding us and trying to hold my baby when I've hardly had the chance makes me super uncomfortable. Not to mention I'm going to feel awkward enough and tired and probably really gross. It would be way better if they just visited at home

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searrahmone
Searrah Hines·Мама дочки (9 лет)

It sounds like he wants it to be one of those movie scenes. Have you explained that to him? Im happy he's excited about baby though but tell him to reel it in a little bit. Lol

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oberynsmommie
Dakota Marie·Мама сына (9 лет)

He wants to invite EVERYONE in the hospital including all of our friends to sit in the waiting room until after I have the baby and have everyone meet the baby right after I give birth. I don't think he really realizes how much of a toll on me that'll be @searrahmone .

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searrahmone
Searrah Hines·Мама дочки (9 лет)

Does your boyfriend agree with you on this decision? ... I never really get people like that. There's no reason for you to be there, especially if we aren't close. The news of babies really makes people lose their damn mind.

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oberynsmommie
Dakota Marie·Мама сына (9 лет)

@searrahmone, thank you , my boyfriends side of the family feels entitled to be with us every single moment of birth and after birth and pretty much said I will have to fight them for my own child. They've all had children of their own and I kinda just want to be able to enjoy the new mother time with just my boyfriend and our child

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searrahmone
Searrah Hines·Мама дочки (9 лет)

You can't be selfish when it comes to the care of your new born baby 😊. Do what you guys feel is right.

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