in what ways do you think it's appropriate for a stepfather to discipline his step child I know there are some others…

my baby father demanded that I spank my step children, not the older ones because they knew better than to act up for no reason, but his 3 yr old, definitely.

my husband is not allowed to touch my children, that is just me. But he is also not obligated to financially take care of my children i do.

depends, like my dad adopted my brothers and treats them as his own, you would never guess that he isn't their biological father. he treats them the same way he treats me well I'm different cuz I'm the baby girl lol! but 34 yrs or so he has been their daddy and if you ask them they'll tell you he is their dad (they know they were adopted) so I'm cases like that yeah by all means, but if it's someone that your not willing or wanting to spend the rest of your life with than I'd feel a lil uncomfortable with it. if that makes sense

mmm if you guys are married.. and the kid is living with you and you cannot discipline (not just spanking) thats just like saying the man in the house is nothing... you do not have to listen to him.. i wouldnt put up with that.. i wouldn't marry anyone with kids.. but if i did and their kid couldn't me scolded for doing wrong they couldn't be in my house corrupting my children.. keep them bad kids at their mothers

my dad who I live with is my stepdad. he spanked me. grounded me, everything like a normal parent

my stepdaddy grounded us. and i discipline my sons older brother when he is over but his momma gave me permission to do it if he needed and i would never whoop him just take away something or whatever. his daddy doesnt whip him and i feel its not my place to do that to someone elses kid. but i never have a problem out of him when he is over he listens well to me so he doesnt get in trouble unless he is throwing a fit or doesnt do whats asked like pick up his toys throw his trash away etc.

@lovemyson_610, @chela915 @twinmamma2015 @lilfree16 @momma_2_batbaby @liamsmommy1206 I don't allow my kids step dad to spank if he needs to discipline I would let him take some thing away make him go to his room or do chores or time out,but today I seem some ones step get mad because the child won't up with an attitude just frowning and looking mad it must have made the step dad made because he kept telling the child to fix his face he didn't so he went to his room waiting to leave for school still being grumpy as the step dad watched him (when he could ignore it sense he's not acting out or throwing a fit) picked the kid up grabbing his arms to the side and tossed him on the couch and had a very mean angry look,I had to step in I said you don't need to be so angry yes he pouting kids should be allowed to express feeling as long as he isn't harming anyone or things ,when he did that I heard the seems to his coat pop,when I confronted him and said if that were your son you would never allow a man to do that to your son and he said so idc I should knock him out he does whatever he wants and is spoiled and nothing is done about it (he's never hit the kid)the mom steps in and says you don't ever threaten my child or puck him up like that again he's says idc and she's says that's your problem your going to fuck up and we will be done ,he says idc and the mother says you don't need to respond in that way now what if he goes and tells his dad your doing that then I could end up in court because he thinks your being abusive and mistreating him idc if you were playing at first when you tossed him the point is don't unless your playing and he knows ,he says idc and he a boy you need to be hard on boys how would you handle it and what would you do ?

i would leave the guy and never let him see my kid again. screw that

she has a point if it goes to court the child's words could be "twisted" in a manner that wasn't the true intent. he shouldn't have handled the kid in that way in the first place but it could cause problems for the mom. it's a tough situation, yes kids should express their feelings as well, and not get in trouble for how they feel, they maybe feeling a certain way to a situation that they don't know the whole story to, like taking sides almost. definitely a tough situation the step dad should be talked to and mom should express her concerns and wishes when it comes to discipline

@twinmamma2015, I'm going to inbox you in a min or two

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