ya know I love being on this app and all the girls I've interacted with so far have been great and I love talking to all these new mommies it's been a great help be in a single ftm and all... but I just have to say this... and im not being mean when I do so please don't get sassy... but I've been seeing a lot how girls have been really scared about being pregnant again... all I've got to say to you ladies is birth control!!! I get that some are allergic to it or certain types make them "crazy" but damn! trial and error ladies!!! I mean all of you already have at least one child or are getting ready to have one... and how do we get pregnant ladies? sex...
so my advice to everyone on here... if you just had a baby and think your pregnant already and it's unplanned or scary here are three methods to choose from so this is prevented...
1. birth control... you have the option for it at your 6 week pp appt... in my opinion not taking it is silly
2. CONDOMS... granted they are not always effective... but im pretty sure they're 99% effective when used properly to prevent pregnancy... and finally
3. abstinence... now I know I know this method is the least fun and I tend to get cranky when I don't get mine... but when options 1 and 2 aren't an option atm you should take it into consideration...
I mean we learn all this in health class our freshman or sophomore year in high school for Christ's sake...
maybe I'm just old and cynical and I'm not in the cool crowd anymore... but I know for me another baby is not an option at any point in time in my future and if yall didn't want another kid so quickly these are precautions yall should have been taking...
That is why I said my situation does not technically apply to the situation. However all methods of contraception don't work, all of the time. Just be sympathetic to the moms that do try to prevent it and still get pregnant. I was pregnant at 17 and I know how the judgement from other people feels when really I had a tiny little unplanned miracle growing inside me. I understand where you are coming from but I think you should look at the other side of the spectrum as well. @laynedaniel
I really don't want to argue here, and my situation doesn't technically apply to this, however I have only one child and when I got pregnant with him I was on birth control.
iv been wanting to say this for so long like are you really that suprised when you weren't being protected, or is it that hard to be protected let your body heal
i dont even know how long i was in labor for less than a day maybe? it was so painful and with the epidural i was completely out of it lol ik i gave a vaginal birth one hell of a try before my doctor goes nope hes too big hes not coming out this way and did the cesarean.and she did everything she could to prevent giving me one! i tomd her over and over before she decided that he wasnt going to come that way lol that we needed a cesarean and he was huge when he came out! @laynedaniel
i'm fixing to be 18 years old, a teenager with raging hormones who is extremely attracted to her boyfriend, & considering most teenagers are stupid when it comes to safe sex, even IIIII know this is true as hell! i got pregnant after failed birth control, i missed it a few days then BAM i got pregnant. so instead of the pill i got the depo shot, effective immediately! i LOVE babies, i want a huge family, but shit dude i DO NOT need another baby right now! its common sense, just be smart if you don't want babies back to back, its not rocket science!
@liamsmommy1206, I had a cesarean too... 36 hours of labor just to have one... ugh!
@laynedaniel, i dont want it either and i hated it too omg and giving birth was hell. and since i had to have a csection and have my tummy is forever numb i dont. know if i even want to do it again! and im right there with ya on the only good thing was my baby everything else was just kinda hell! @queendavis lol right?
@queendavis, lol girl oml you read my mind...then they wonder why their bodies won't bounce back...
@liamsmommy1206 @sammie_bell I had sex 5 times all together in 2015 when I found out I was pregnant... now I don't even want to at all... I hated being pregnant... the only good thing about it was my handsome baby boy
i knew it was something like that! @laynedaniel. @sammie_bell I'm not big on sex either lol but id rather have kids a couple years apart than months thats just too many baby babies at once....
I agree with you. It's been getting a little crazy on here lately with those type of posts. And the funny part is, the majority of the ones getting pregnant again- aren't even 6 weeks postpartum. Like you aren't even supposed to be having sex again yet! You are not healed enough for a dick to be going inside of you! But not only did you let a dick inside of you, now you're gonna grow a baby? In a body that isn't even healed from the first one? CRAZY! I just don't get it lol. After my second baby I RAN to the doctors office practically begging for birth control! And sex was nowhere near my mind right after having each one of my kids, I was too busy focusing on taking care of my new child and letting my body heal. Idk how girls are getting themselves in these situations. Well, yes I do...lol but it just baffles me. Like stop acting so fucking shocked that you're pregnant again, you've been having unprotected sex!!!!!! Okay rant over 😂😂😊
get it girl!! @sammie_bell I don't blame ya... im sticking with the one and done option myself... once was enough for me lol
Ya my son is 4 and my baby cakes is 10 months I think these ladies need to find what suits there bodies and do that because I'm not have my next for another 3-5 years and you best believe that is going to be how far apart they are
@liamsmommy1206, I think it's at least 1 year...
@sammie_bell I think that's good I mean if you want a big family kudos! I think years apart instead of months is so much better I mean it gives you time to adjust and it also gives your body time to heal... I mean some women die during childbirth for having children so close together... that's also not fair to your baby to have to grow up without a mother because someone couldn't use a condom or be responsible enough to take bc
I use the rhyme and my kids are over three years apart so I think I'm doing pretty good on it but I also don't like sex a hole lot so it's not even a problem for me
same here. im having trouble figuring out how the heck you can even think about it right after having a baby! i mean damn i just want to sleep lol and yea i was under the impression you needed atleast a year or 2 between to heal fully or close to it (i could have numbers wrong there). ik someone who has 3 babies fixing to have number 4 and the last 3 have been right after the other i mean she got pregnant with one right after getting out the hospital for the last! except for this one shes fixing to have. i just got the depo shot yesterday and tomorrow we going to go buy more protection and im still going to wait a few months. im 19 and wasnt ready for this one lol not ready for another!!!
I'm really not tryin to be a bitch about it really but damn! kids are a blessing but give your body some time to heal... I love dick as much as the next heterosexual female but I can promise you even with my bc I will not be having any sex for awhile... just my choice tho
Shit I give girls props that can do it because I couldn't 3 years is to close together for me