So... I went yesterday for my 9 week appointment. Couldn't find heartbeat on fetal doppler, did an…

it never hurts to get a 2nd opinion. ive had doctors act that way when giving me my bad news, it's unprofessional and very shitty. none the less. NEVER think that way of yourself. ive had 4 losses back to back and I thought that of myself. and it broke me. never lose sight of you for something you cannot control. please. it breaks my heart to read that you feel that way about yourself. because If it is what it is. you are NOT a failure, hun. please try to stay strong. because you don't see it now. but you are a warrior.

all i do is cry. i feel like im the ine person who was supposed to be able to protect my baby and i couldnt... that moment keeps replaying in my head.

it's okay to cry. you have that right to cry. but know that it was something you could not control. one thing I learned that miscarriages that early is bc of the baby and chromosomal issues. it's gonna hurt. and it takes time to recover. ive been there a few good times. and it sucks. but you did do everything you could. don't feel like you didn't. when it's that early there isn't a lot we can do besides worry and hope all is best. a miscarriage is very hurtful to a woman. because the moment we find out we are expecting we changed. and we want to do everything to protect that baby but at that...your baby knows how much you loved him /her. they know that from the moment they get there. it's never your fault when you cannot control it. take the time you need to heal. grieve for as long as you need to. but if you feel like you need a 2nd opinion. go get one because it's not wrong or dumb to do so. a lot of nights I think about the 4 I've lost. and wonder what I could've done better. i still get that way sometimes. but never blame myself because it was beyond my control. I just want to let you know that what you're feeling is okay. go get that 2nd opinion if you feel it will ease your mind. it's gonna hurt. it's gonna replay. but one day it WILL become easier. you just gotta allow yourself to heal and accept and then when you are ready move forward. I pray that this situation goes to ease you somehow. IDK you. but right now I wish I could just give you a hug and cry with you. because I've been there and I know how much that hurts.. @peanutsmom8891

Ugh I don't even know why men become obs. I'm sorry you are going through this. If it is indeed true I wish you the best in conceiving your rainbow baby ❤️

Assumed it was a guy from my personal traumatic experience where the guy kept telling me "I'm sorry we can't find a heartbeat" while I'm looking at my baby move on the screen ugh. Some people just should do desk work.

i cant stop seeing that screen... not hearing the heart.... him saying well sorry and walking out... tried to get me to schedule the surgery then and there... and the sound of my husband bawling on the other end of that phone.... this is the first time ive ever just stopped caring about anything and everything completely. like.... people keep telling me God has a plan im like.... his plan included giving me and my husband the child we prayed so hard for then taking the baby away from us....i dont think very highly of his olans right now so.... i really wish people (my family mostly) would stop telling me theres some reasom behind this. Because all i see is that my child was taken from me, and theres NO good reason for that. NOT EVER. Idk what to even do or where to turn at this point. i cant function. I haven't eaten.... i barely sleep... I feel so broken and alone.... and I keep looking back seeing all the things I did and I wonder.... if I caused this. Did I use too much pine sol or something when I mopped? Did I hold it too long when I had to pee and was busy answering 911 calls and couldn't leave my station? Idk what we did to deserve this. I never even felt my baby kick... I hate my life right now.

@peanutsmom8891, my doctor told me that the heart beat cant usually be heard until ten weeks. go to the hospital and ask for a transvaginal ultrua sound. sometimes baby is too small to see on ultra sound screen. they take a stick a dildo looking thing and stick it inside you so its right next to baby and they can pick up the heart beat that way. I had it done.

just go to the er?

Pull yourself together and get a second opinion..gods got you

i feel like God did this to me.