Ok ladies I really need advice!!! So I been pregnant the whole 8months and the whole 8months of my…
Ok ladies I really need advice!!!
So I been pregnant the whole 8months and the whole 8months of my pregnancy as been so stressful!!! so during the 8months my husbands mother has not been supportive at all trying to break us apart telling my hubby that the baby isn't his when we new it was.
so around me being two months preggo we took my Hubby's son from her house an we were homeless sleeping in a car n my Hubby's mom was tryna find us tryna get my Hubby's son randomly popped up at our wedding looking for his son didn't even say hi to me at our wedding or nothing. and trust me I wanted to attack her but if course I couldn't. so e been pretty much staying away from her but she's been texting us calling me a slut a how all these horrible names throwing low blows saying that's why I don't have a mom n all this personal stuff that affected me a lot. so my Hubby's son needed to go to school so we actually gave my Hubby's crazy mom tempary guardianship so now she has his going to school an we were thinking now she will probley leave us alone cause she got what she wanted his son but nooooope! she stick tryna break us apart !! so now I'm like 6 months preggo she calls starts being nice an I'm thinking ok I guess I'll be cordial tords her an my hubby goes down there to see his son while I stay back n like 5 hours later my hubby calls me saying I think we need space ! I'm completely shocked this coming out of no where! an I'm thinking his mom got to him smh! so I'm pist with my preggo self cuessing his mom out an then my hubby calls saying I'm crazy cause I called his mom out of her name witch I know I shouldn't have done I agree but I was so mad! then a day ltr he comes back but his mom still telling him what if that's not your kid so he just ignored her ok so now I'm about to give birth his mom come in I be nice an let her be there n to find out like we new baby J his my Hubby's 2nd son and now EVERYTHING changes! his Mon is more nice an she calls my hubby everyday every since he's been born Dec 31st 2015 she's been wanting us around all the time wants us to sleep over n all this because the baby his her blood witch is good but this is how I feel ladies this whole pregnancy has been the pregnancy from hell!!! been homless his mom verbally abusing me won't help us at all! but now cause the baby is her blood now she will help us like I'll be cordial tords my Hubby's mom but what she did to me this whole pregnancy I feel like is unforgettable I can't just pretend like nothing happens n sleep over her house like I'm ok I don't feel comfortable at all to sleep over an I have a big trust issue with his mom idk I feel like this is all bs ! I get that vibe from her I just hope she ain't tryna take my baby away from me u know the term your friends close and your enamys closer ya that's how I feel. An my hubby is saying Monique just for get about it leave everything in 2015 n I'm telling him its not that easy n I don't want to sleep over or see her all the time he says I'm sorry but I'm family oriented. so ladies sence you know the story you think I'm being shelfish should I just let it go or ....? need advice Help!
Alexis·
В ожидании первенца
Nothing is wrong with keeping your distance. Still respect her. But keep a watch out. You can forgive and still be cautious around her.
Monique Word·
Мама двоих (младенец)
ya that's what I'm saying @lexy03212015 My hubby is getting mad at me cause I'm not letting it go smh idk I guess its easy for him cause that's his mon
Alexis·
В ожидании первенца
Pray. Forgive. And I agree move on. Sometimes it may feel like the other person is winning but you don't want to add flame to the fire by holding on to that baggage. Fine she wants to take care of the baby out of no where. Accept that blessing. I'm not saying trust everybody either. Just let it go love. Trust God and make sure your baby is fine. If she wants to step up. Let her. I would always be around with the baby though. Until you feel like you can trust again. If the baby is going mommy is going too lol. @monique51893
Tahtahme·
В ожидании первенца
Don't carry anger or resentment but also don't get fooled twice. You have every right to keep your distance unless you have to and to not be close to that woman. I have been homeless while pregnant and it is no joke, it is very hard! if you have strong convictions like not leaving the baby with her, follow those feelings. But be respectful and keep your head held high. Be the classy one.
michelle·
I'm sorry you had to go through that .. but I would still feel some type of way but just keep that eye on her buy I would treat her like she treats me but ur doing great
Monique Word·
Мама двоих (младенец)
thank you and agreed @tahtahme @lexy03212015 so cause I wanna keep my distance is it bad that I keep her 2nd grandson away as well with me cause my baby ain't gonna go with my hubby with out me so tomarrow he's going there but I don't want to cause we live in LA n there live in the valley like an hour away an she wanted us to sleep over but I don't want to cause I don't feel comfortable u know.
Monique Word·
Мама двоих (младенец)
thank you an its alright @tweety1996
ana·
Мама дочки (1 год), беременна (13 нед.)
I'm sorry to hear about the abuse she put you thru. You must be very patient and respectful cause many would have told her like it is...i had a mother in law issue for 4 years. When I got married she made it seem like I took her son away. She was always very rude. When I was pregnant with my 1st child she always tested me but I was lucky enough to have my husband have my back. After I gave birth this lady told me that she was sorry for her maltreatment and that she now liked me because I had her granddaughter. To me it was hurtful. I never disrespected her for the reason that if I played her game then I would loose my husband. I let her play the bad guy that she is and my husband has really pushed her away. I have let things go because it's not good to hold that. I did have a one on one conversation with her. I've told her how it is. my husband is mine and so are my kids. She is only grandma in my family therefore my kids and I come first for my husband. I made it clear that she and I won't be like mother and daughter yet alone best friends. I told her that I wouldn't ever disrespect her because I was a woman not a little girl with ignorant games. I don't like her nor will I ever love her. I tolerate her. But that's my story. honestly you don't want this resentment with you cause it may slip in front of your kids or hubby and it could backfire. good luck.
claudia·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
let him know its not easy letting go especially because she disrespect u first and besides he should be on ur side the whole pregnancy u were pregnant and ur emotion are more sensitive while ur pregnant ask him would she have let it go or would he had let it go let him know u will work on it but he has to give u time
Monique Word·
Мама двоих (младенец)
wow! @anayeli
what I think it already is starting to back fire a little smh I'll inbox you
claudia·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
it true dont hold grudges is not good for the heart pray and god will help u forget slowy take ur time when ur ready to take the next steps do so me while keep ur distance