if he treats you like this, imagine how he will treat your child. he needs help or you need to leave. if a child sees their mother being emotionally abused, they will think it's acceptable to do or take.

we live with my mom.. she normally intervenes or will take my dog out for a walk with me so we can talk @tahtahme

If you 2 are at home and you are being treated in a way you describe as abusive, you should go walk somewhere and spend time alone. Don't stand in the house thinking sad things, change your environment.

@tahtahme, we share a car plus he was at work.. if I don't answer i worry it could make things worse.. sometimes things work and sometimes things don't. I can't really predict how he will react to certain things even though he was fine and calmed down the same way as when he freaked out before. relationships do have lows and ours yes are pretty low but our highs are way more often then the lows

There should be ups and downs in a relationship, but your downs can't be that far down...Have you considered leaving the house for a few hours when he is like that? Giving each other space? Just not responding? If you are already diagnosed with mental disorders, it seems he should know that he is triggering you worse than the average person would be at those times. I think you should have a small bag with a book and journal or adult coloring book and just take it and go get a hot drink and meditate outside or at a coffee shop when he acts this way, so you maintain your own mood and emotional state. BUT I also agree with @mrsdoyle @nicolerawrr and @sophiasmum that it could get worse the more you enable the behavior, and it could make the whole relationship useless and over despite your love for each other. It doesn't sound healthy from what you've said.

im not staying with him because I'm pregnant I'm with him because i love him and its rarely like this. I've tried talking to him about how I feel. I have multiple mental health disorders and he's the type of person to tell a depressed person to just cheer up as if I can snap my fingers and feel better. he grew up not knowing any of that stuff so its hard trying to explain that to him. he's an amazing guy and takes care of me. I'm not an easy person to deal with. I mean I can't work I physically am not able to work. so he pays for all of our bills with no questions asked. he stepped up and is doing everything I could ever imagine. he loves our daughter so much and when he gets in these moods even if he's mad at me he still talks to her through my belly

my partner is the same. we got pregnant 6 months after we met. And hes been the same way but not until our daughter was born. needless to say he didnt change and now were expecting our second. weve been together three and a half years but i just had the courage to walk away. i love him to death. hes my best friend. but he's a lousy partner.you just have to know when enough is enough and i hope for you its not three years down the road <3 much luck to you

my hubby and I started kinda the same I mean we were good friends for a few months before we started dating and I got pregnant 3 weeks into dating... have you tried talking to him and telling him how you feel and why you feel this way? things are only going to get more stressful once the baby comes :/ I know it sounds bad but don't stay with somebody just because you are pregnant or have a baby. no relationship should be consider abusive, physically or mentally.

if he's doing it now. itll just get worse. and then chances are he'll be the same way towards your child. I know you love him and want to be with him but think about what's best for your child.