ladies, I need yalls help. the father of my unborn child has not been apart of this pregnancy at all. I'm do in almost…

@jessica_higgins, what do you mean?

personally I would give him an ultimatum and see what he chooses.

@babie_2016, well yeah. its best to not go back n forth with him bcus anything u say he can use it against u.. and if u wanna do Child Support, mke sure u file that first.. goodluck

@ftm020216, oh I kno he'll lie, he told me already

yes ma'am. . if he file bfre u, the court may view it as if he wants to hlp. he could go in and lie and say you're keeping him away... @babie_2016

@ftm020216, so should I go first.

@babie_2016, i read through the rest of the comments pretty quick... but did i read that he is going to go place himself on CS?? if so, he's smart.. and you better try and beat him.. when men place themselves on CS in most cases (i have witnessed) it make the payments wayyy cheaper than it would be if you file first and it give him rights to your child for him to see him or get him whenever he wants... but..... to answer your main concern, it is many resources available to single moms.. i know most ppl feel like they dont wanna be on government assistance, but if u need it, then u need it.. u just hve to say f him and do what u hve to do for your child.. keep your head up momma.. dont let the bby feel your stress

@babie_2016 lol my son's father doesn't even know where we're at, other than what state we're in. he wouldn't even begin to know where to look for us at!

@lovemyson_610, lol.... it sucks too cause he has rights to my daughter... but yet he don't wanna do shit for his first son. but yet has the balls to go afterwards to child support and get his rights...

CHILD SUPPORT... and if he's like that now have supervised visits where he has to come to u to see baby most of the times they nvr show

CHILD SUPPORT... and if he's like that now have supervised visits where he has to come to u to see baby most of the times they nvr show

@victorsmommy, thank you! I'm trying too, I only have 8weeks left and once again my parents gotta do his part and buy everything.

@babie_2016 well fuck him then, my baby father didn't want to help out either, that's just one of many reasons why he'll never see my son.

you didn't fail as a mother. I promise you. he's the one missing out on a beautiful experience now that baby. please keep your head up everything will work out.

after you have the baby tell them youre exclusively breast feeding.. that should stop them alittle from bugging you about getting a job

@lovemyson_610, yes I kno how the child support works, but the thing is he don't wanna help out in any way, but he plans on going to file for child support.. he don't deserve to see his son.

but you have to go through with the child support thing. take his ass to court. have him pay. he needs to help support your kids. im doing the same thing rn.

they took money away? how? as long as you go to the work first meetings and show that you are actively applying for jobs there shouldnt be a problem

@babychloe, but don't you gotta be looking for work to get that? I did it once and they took 200$ away from my daughter cause nobody would hire me.

I haven't seen my baby father since I was 13 weeks pregnant, and I've never gotten a penny from him to support my son & he will be 7 months old tomorrow. I'm not putting him on child support bc it gives the father his rights, and I dont want or need him in our lives! Child support is definitely your choice, but just remember it comes with legal rights.

@victorsmommy, I have a big support system here at home, but I just think he should be a man and do what's right.. but I kno deep down he's doing all this just to get at me. I feel like I failed as a mother..

@littleboomommy that's all he's worried about is going to child support after baby is born.. but I don't kno what to do in the mean time. like my baby's needs. he's not the same person anymore. He's only doing this cause he says I'm a big mistake and I don't deserve these kids I have from him.

apply for tanf.. you'll have to submit an application for child support.. while they are working on the child support youll get cash assistance.

I understand exactly where your coming from. the father of my child only been to one appt and hasn't bought anything since. but what you need to do is pray and if you have a support system ask if they can help you in any way.

You can't force him, child support is most likely the best option