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Ok ladies I need your help. I'm a ftm and me and my baby dad aren't together anymore so he's taking me to court once the…

Ok ladies I need your help. I'm a ftm and me and my baby dad aren't together anymore so he's taking me to court once the baby is here. He wants 50/50 custody but that would kill me being away from my baby for a whole week. He already has a kid with someone else and has 50/50 but that girl doesn't really care about her son. And my ex doesn't have a stable job and when he does find one he always leaves it and never has money. His mom is raising his son she buys him clothes and whatever he needs.

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aurora0612

Aurora rinconМама двоих (3 года, 9 лет)

he doesn't have a stable job he won't get 50/50 and say ur breast feeding ur baby so ur baby will need to be with u because u don't want to pump ur milk and he can't show proof of a stable job either so he won't get anything say u don't want to take his kid from him but that he can visit with him but no overnight stays I'll pray for u girl keep ur head up be strong

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brwneydgirly25

RachelМама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого

I have heard also if the baby its breastfed then the baby has to stay with the mom because mom would be the food source.. @josephmommie

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dontberidiculous

dontberidiculousМама сына (8 лет), беременна (23 нед.)

Psssh! Tell him good luck. Clearly the baby's best interest is not what he has in mind. No judge will send a brand new baby to the fathers for an extended amount of time. If you plan on breastfeeding, then not at all. Small children need their mothers. Typically the rules change when the child turns 3.

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ashethamermaid

Ashe Мама сына-младенца

Exactly! He won't get that definitely not while your baby will be so young

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josephmommie

ClaudiaВ ожидании первенца

@muva.mermaid yes girl I think he had a real good job but he left it. And when we were together he would always text me asking me for money for food for him and his son. He can't afford to buy food for his older son imagine for a newborn that are more expensive

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josephmommie

ClaudiaВ ожидании первенца

@their.bomb.ass.mom man I hope it's like that here too cause I don't want my baby to be away from me especially being a newborn. And right now he he texted me asking for half of the stuff I had for the baby already and since I said no he got mad and told me he was taking me to court. I told him to buy everything for the baby so he could have at his house whenever I let him see the baby but I know he can't even afford a bag of diapers

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josephmommie

ClaudiaВ ожидании первенца

@kikobear1996 hopefully they are on my favor I save every text message from him. I had more but he deleted all his txts on my phone

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josephmommie

ClaudiaВ ожидании первенца

@pandasqueen yes that's exactly how it is his mom picks my example son up and drops him off. See I don't mind if he has him the weekends that's fine with me cause I could work the weekend and the rest of the week spend it with my son. I don't want him paying me child support cause I know he won't anyways, thank good I have a decent paying job to support my son on my own without his help. Yes we are going through the same thing, message me if you ever want to talk :)

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kikobear1996

MichaelaВ ожидании первенца

Luckily for us ladies, courts in California tend to rule in favor of the mother. The point you made about his inconsistent employment is important information to have if you do end up going to court and would certainly be a point on your card, especially if you do have consistent income.

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pandaswifeyy

Kassandra FloresМама двоих (1 год, 5 лет), ждёт третьего

I'm in the same situation except the pregnant part well my son will be 2 in March when we went to court he would keep him every weekend and he would pay child support and now he dosnet pay anything my sons grandmother is the one that picks my son up and gets him what he needs he has nothing to do with my son so I understand u and I'm pregnant and my husband is in jail it sucks but in here I hope we can relate

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ashethamermaid

Ashe Мама сына-младенца

Maybe he had a job when he got 50/50 with his first bm but if the courts know that his mom is physically doing everything else for his other child which I am sure is hard, I doubt he gets 50/50 of yours as well if you are the sole provider

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missing145user

missing145user

they usually don't let the baby do overnight stays for a while, like when my child's father and I were talking about visitation they said no overnight stays until 3 years old, but it may be different state to state.

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Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday…

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?

How yu gonna argue with me because i find child support stupid af if the father takes his child has a roof over his head…

How yu gonna argue with me because i find child support stupid af if the father takes his child has a roof over his head and food in his fridge when he has the kid why does he need to pay you so you have a roof over your head and your bills are paid isnt that your job as a mother. Not fair that a man has to make sure he has everything for himself and his baby at his place and take care of his baby mommas "bills". Smh. To each its own but to argue with me about my opinion. Tf get out my face with that bullshit.

Am I wrong for thinking he doesn't deserve to be in my sons life? He hasn't wanted anything to do with this baby until…

Am I wrong for thinking he doesn't deserve to be in my sons life? He hasn't wanted anything to do with this baby until last week. When I told him I was pregnant he begged me to get an abortion. He didn't tell his family about the baby until last week. Literally. He hasn't given me money, diapers, anything at all for the baby. And suddenly he expects me to just let him have the baby 50/50. Like no.. It doesn't work that way, and he thinks he should get full custody?

ladies I canot believe my eyes and ears. my mother in law my babies grandma has told me to get and abortion. when she…

ladies I canot believe my eyes and ears. my mother in law my babies grandma has told me to get and abortion. when she left I told my babies father that I don't agree at all, and he got upset with me so I told him that I needed to leave and go for a drive just for around the block to scream with my Windows up to let out my anger and frustrations as well as my hurt. I let him know where I was and to known I'd pick him up in time for work to drive him and he said he didn't need that. he has since told his mother how I feel and she has kicked me out and said that she's taking her son (he is 24!) away from me so that he doesn't have to deal with me or the baby anymore! he will not answer my phone calls or answer my texts so it's over just like that because I don't want to abort my child. he was all for it until he talked to his mother.