he doesn't have a stable job he won't get 50/50 and say ur breast feeding ur baby so ur baby will need to be with u because u don't want to pump ur milk and he can't show proof of a stable job either so he won't get anything say u don't want to take his kid from him but that he can visit with him but no overnight stays I'll pray for u girl keep ur head up be strong

I have heard also if the baby its breastfed then the baby has to stay with the mom because mom would be the food source.. @josephmommie

Psssh! Tell him good luck. Clearly the baby's best interest is not what he has in mind. No judge will send a brand new baby to the fathers for an extended amount of time. If you plan on breastfeeding, then not at all. Small children need their mothers. Typically the rules change when the child turns 3.

Exactly! He won't get that definitely not while your baby will be so young

@muva.mermaid yes girl I think he had a real good job but he left it. And when we were together he would always text me asking me for money for food for him and his son. He can't afford to buy food for his older son imagine for a newborn that are more expensive

@their.bomb.ass.mom man I hope it's like that here too cause I don't want my baby to be away from me especially being a newborn. And right now he he texted me asking for half of the stuff I had for the baby already and since I said no he got mad and told me he was taking me to court. I told him to buy everything for the baby so he could have at his house whenever I let him see the baby but I know he can't even afford a bag of diapers

@kikobear1996 hopefully they are on my favor I save every text message from him. I had more but he deleted all his txts on my phone

@pandasqueen yes that's exactly how it is his mom picks my example son up and drops him off. See I don't mind if he has him the weekends that's fine with me cause I could work the weekend and the rest of the week spend it with my son. I don't want him paying me child support cause I know he won't anyways, thank good I have a decent paying job to support my son on my own without his help. Yes we are going through the same thing, message me if you ever want to talk :)

Luckily for us ladies, courts in California tend to rule in favor of the mother. The point you made about his inconsistent employment is important information to have if you do end up going to court and would certainly be a point on your card, especially if you do have consistent income.

I'm in the same situation except the pregnant part well my son will be 2 in March when we went to court he would keep him every weekend and he would pay child support and now he dosnet pay anything my sons grandmother is the one that picks my son up and gets him what he needs he has nothing to do with my son so I understand u and I'm pregnant and my husband is in jail it sucks but in here I hope we can relate

Maybe he had a job when he got 50/50 with his first bm but if the courts know that his mom is physically doing everything else for his other child which I am sure is hard, I doubt he gets 50/50 of yours as well if you are the sole provider

they usually don't let the baby do overnight stays for a while, like when my child's father and I were talking about visitation they said no overnight stays until 3 years old, but it may be different state to state.