thank you so much @dontberidiculous

I hope that works out for you. I promise you though, if it doesn't, things will be okay. ❤

@dontberidiculous, your right I guess I keep holding onto the thought that when our daughter is here everything will change

You obviously know better than I do about the depth of your relationship. I can only tell you from experience what worked for me. I really feel awful for you. You don't deserve to be in this situation or to have a man in your life that doesn't respect you or know your worth.

@supermommy23, yeah I thought about it but then I think about how that's not who I want to be I used to be like that I'd check his phone and ask who ppl were and I just was miserable because I didn't trust him. and I had a right not to but it made me into an ugly person and I was always angry now this time I tried to give him space and not push him away I trusted him for the first time in 9 months I checked his phone last night and I saw the girls on there and I just broke.. I don't want to keep tabs I don't want to be controlling @supermommy23 I'm not saying you are either I'm just saying I don't want to have to do that

The message you send when you stay in situations like that is that you know you don't deserve better. I feel like you know better than that. It's okay to say, "you know what, I deserve better." And call it good. He isn't being a good person to you now. He may have been in the past which is exactly what you needed, but he isn't now. And you don't need that.

@donits hard to walk away from someone that I've been with since I was 16 I know it's just time but for me within these three years so many life changing things happened like loosing 2 babies, being homeless and so many others that he was there to take care of me to wipe my tears and hold me @dontberidiculous

@k.haotic, Agreed.

@analisa_ag, I would tell him he needs to get rid of the snapchat honestly because I understand how you feel I couldn't imagine raising my 2year old and a newborn without there daddy! but my s/o is not allowed to have nothing but a fb and we don't have passwords on our phones...

I don't think breaks work. It just gets worse cause they think oh a break means we aren't together so they do what they want like mess with other females

@miracleshappen, I want to forgive him. I do forgive him for me not him. but I don't know if I can take the pain of him doing it again farther down the line

it use to be easy for us not to worry but with snap chap, instagram, and Facebook it's temptation for the . like I told my husband I will never go to hoes level and be nude so I can get likes, if you cannot love me for my realness stay with the fake Ness and we are good now and been married and together for 9 years . because I told him no other women now will deal with bull.

I thought about that but he argued with me and told me he doesn't want me or the baby anywhere else I just dk@priscmv92

What will you gain by allowing him to do this? Will it ever end? Forgiving him is great, for you. It doesn't mean that you stay and allow his bad behavior to continue. He does it because he knows either A) you'll forgive him and he'll get away with it or, B) because he truly doesn't care about the repricussions. Or both. I think you really need to think about what is best for you at this point. I hope you are 100% about what you choose. I've been through this, I've done this pregnant before. I made the right decision by walking away.

Maybe take a break from him and that'll give him a wake up call that you are serious about this and that he needs to step up or leave.

@analisa_ag, do you want to forgive him? It's your decision.

I been with him 3 years and now that we're starting a family I can't imagine my daughter growing up with two parents I want to do right by her and I love him so much I just don't know if I should forgive him once again @dontberidiculous @k.haotic @lilmonma33 @miracleshappen @priscmv92 @supermommy23

a guy will be a guy , I stop worrying about my husband and let God handle him

Men can be so shady. He obviously is way too selfish to be in a committed relationship. I'm sorry you're going through that.

Oh my. I am so sorry. I thought my fiancé was doing the same thing but it turned out to be his cousin and I went off on him anyway. Since then he's deleted his snapchat and he even added my fingerprint thingy to his phone.

My SO does the same shit and we can fight one million times but we are still trying 😾 well I'm the one trying .!

guys don't know what they have until it's gone... they want there cake in to eat it too

Nothing is wrong with you. Sometimes love can blind you or make you want to believe someone's changed. It's not your fault, it's his. And if he wants to do that crap. Well he doesn't deserve you.