Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
i finally let him do it I finally let DF throw away my foundations. He says I look better without it. He said he hates seeing me cover my face with make up when I can just wear mascara and eyeliner. He says it makes me look fake and he said he's not saying it to be mean, hes saying it because he cares. Im glad he's real with me. He says I have natural beauty. He says he doesn't like it when I dye my hair or wear make up because he loves my natural beauty. I know some girls feel as though that they need make up but they don't. Make up to me is just to do it for fun and sometimes when I feel insecure. Hes the only man that has made me feel beautiful without my hair straightened, without make up on and in my baggy clothes. I can burp in front of him, I can do weird things in front of him, etc. He has taught me so many things in the last (almost) 3 years and im so grateful for him. He taught me how to make pork chops and steaks, how to play some videogames, how to make white rice, how to budget, etc.
opinions? I told Jeff I want to leave. He said that he doesn't love me and I feel the same way about him. However when I asked him if I could keep paying my share of the bills while saving enough to leave he said if I'm going to leave I need to go now. This is what he always does. He says he doesn't want me but when I try to leave he manipulates me.
So I think my husband has been trying to tell me something without telling me if that makes sense. The reason I say that is cuz there is this chick that would leave us alone and he told me to tell her yesterday that he send me a letter saying he wanted a divorce. But than when I call him back after talking to her. I ask if he really wants to get a divorce and he just laughs and says no I don't. I can't believe you would think that. But it's not the first time he has made me do this with another woman. I did this in August too. I just really hope he's not goin to do this. I don't know what to think.
Rant My SO has been rude a lot ever since I've gotten pregnant...he said he doesn't care about my pregnancy, he doesn't even take one day off from work just ONE to come to at least one ultra sound appointment. I mean he's always making sure I'm fed, he lets use the heating pad, and even apologized to saying he doesn't care. He can mess with me all day but when I want to join and play around he gives me an attitude. He just makes me feel like s*** at times. He's a great fiancé don't get me wrong, but he can really get on my nerves and makes me upset to the point I go to bed earlier than him and cry until I fall asleep. Idk if it's the hormones or something/: I try to be a great fiancé. But I always seem to fail /:
kali15·
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@mango44, the best and most realest response. apart from the Praying comment.
Becky·
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I've heard of it. and watched the movie.:) we've also tried it before. bit didn't complete ot
Jeniffer Revell·
read this book called the love dare. it works look it up. try it if you don't see changes then leave but try it.
Jeniffer Revell·
Hey I dont assume everyone in here is spiritual but pray(meditate) about it before you leave don't just act out if emotion. I know he lies about being bi-polar and blames for the problems in your relationship but that bi-polarism can be the reason he is doing all the wrong things. a disease is no excuse to fall on but look at it from that angle. In my marriage i give not expecting back i do it because i love him and sure it sucks because at times you compare minor things. but if it were my husband i would be play the roll of his friend at this point. what u can i do to help the person i love be his best self.
missing230user·
^ posted before i read the response. i think if you were looking for changes to make the relationship better, you should have went that route first to see if he'd be willing to compromise with you hun. a person struggling with bipolar disorder is not exactly the most empathetic of people, so i'm not surprised at his nonchalant attitude about you sayin that you were leaving. my brother is bipolar schizophrenic. you deal with them differently as far as emotions are concerned because they lack the ability to empathize with others emotional needs :(
missing230user·
then why are you upset about him not fighting for you if you've been dealing with all of his issues for so long. to me it sounds like you wanted out & that's an unhealthy environment for children and yourself. so if you're looking for change, why were you expecting him to fight for you to stay in a relationship with all of these problems when you sat him down with an already reached decision about leaving? i'm confused. did u just say it to see if he'd show some type of desperation about you staying with him? and what would that have changed as far as the problems in your relationship if he did?
BANNED·
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even if it was for attention...men shouldnt keep giving us reasons to want to leave.....and to feel the need to say im leaving..we dont do it for no reasom
Becky·
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no I wasn't doing it for attention.. that's not a way to get attention
Becky·
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I did sit him down actually. we talked the other night about things. and he acted like nothing happened. I want to leave because he doesn't care about our marriage. clearly. if he told me that he actually wanted me here and he would try then maybe we could talk about staying...
Becky·
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yeah. I mean out relationship is riddled with emotional abuse and mental abuse. he lied about being bi polar for our entire marriage while at the same time blaming me for everything that went wrong in our relationship. he doesn't take anything I say seriously. and he hasn't even kissed me since Christmas eve. He doesn't pay attention to our kids. (7 months and 3 years) so I'm scared to leave them with him.
missing230user·
i mean... you kind of didn't sit him down with an option by telling him you were ready to leave. any one would take that as your mind is made up. were you expecting him to beg and plead? did u just want some type of attention or what?
jazz·
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wow you said same thing
jazz·
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understandable why you want to leave obviously he doesn't fight for your relationship at all. it's like he doesn't even care. that would make me feel like leaving too.
Becky·
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I don't understand. if you love someone, you don't let them walk away. like I'm ready to pack our stuff and leave. and it's like he doesn't care..
BANNED·
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i hate guys more and more smh