Why Is My Fiancé Being So Useless?
my fiance is being useless.
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I hate to use that word but I have no other words for it. I'm so frustrated.
First of all he refuses to get a job. I supported quitting his last job but under the impression he was getting another one. I've even applied for him and he won't go to the interview. 😧
He doesn't help with the baby in the day. I wake up with her and have her all day. Every diaper, every bottle. I play with her. I read to her. I rock her to sleep. I do everything. Plus I gotta hustle and come up with all the money we need since he won't work, but I can't work. So I barely scrape by. I do all the laundry and the cleaning. I take care of all our appointments.
and I don't really get to sleep.
Because he refuses to work I can't afford a place to live on our own so I'm stuck in his parents basement. I sleep on a concrete floor! I don't even have a bed 😢😢😢
It's so uncomfortable. The baby goes to bed at midnight. And she's pretty good at going on time. Hubby will be watching tv which lights up the room plus he has an indoor garden with 800 watts of light which he won't turn off until 1 30am. Which I could probably deal with. But then he will stay up until 6am watching TV and it lights up the entire room and it's loud and I can't sleep through that. 😳👀👂👀👂👀👂
So if I can fall asleep quick I get a little sleep. But at 7 30 am his fuckin garden lights go back on! I can't sleep through that light! So then I'm just awake until the baby gets up around 10am.
And then my fiance is asleep. None of the light bugs him. So he sleeps from 6 on. And God forbid he get up with the baby! He sleeps till 2pm every damn day.
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ladies I'm so tired. I feel so run down. Plus I've been sick plus I'm trying to relactate. I don't know what to do. I've talked to him about it plenty of times and each time he apologized and says he will do better then he does it again!
I'm not willing to leave him for this but idk I need him to know how serious this is
Blanca·
Мама сына-младенца
You shouldn't have to put up with all that. If he doesn't change then i don't know what else you could do you're already putting in most of the work.You have to tell him where you stand and how serious you are.
Manna·
Мама дочки-младенца
Put your foot down. You have a little girl, is this the example you want for her? That your man gets to do what he wants, but girls have to be the grown up? I personally would leave until he gets his act together. He can still see the baby, but you gotta take care of you and that child, not a grown man acting like a child.
Steph 💋·
Мама двоих (младенец)
Why don't you just put your foot down and make him get his shit together? Give him an ultimatum. He won't change unless he HAS to. Let him know that you refuse to stay with him unless things change, that may make him wake up a little. But honestly if I were you I would've been gone a long time ago. No way in hell I would be sleeping on a concrete floor. And by garden I'm guessing you mean pot? That's probably why he won't get a job.
Amanda·
Мама дочки-младенца
I'm definitely going to talk to him again. I can't deal with this. I just feel like he's changed so much. he's nothing like the guy I fell in love with. I know he's been depressed but I feel like I still deserve better. Idk maybe I haven't been making it clear how much I need him to change. He did so good for so long. Then he got depressed, we moved in with his parents and now he won't do anything. I feel bad but it doesn't fix anything. I don't want to stay sleeping on a floor but I have nowhere else. I don't have any family or friends I could stay with. I don't mind his garden (it's a vegetable garden) he really loves his garden and that's the only time he even smiles is when he's gardening I just hate the light. @blanca_boo @unbecomingme @queendavis
Blanca·
Мама сына-младенца
@bbyenolan22, a lot of men change after having a baby but he has to step up. If he's depressed he should talk to you about it and be open so you can maybe help. You definitely need a different place for your daughter to grow up not a basement. Its a sad thing that we have to be the strong ones when raising a child. Keep your head up momma you're going to make it through this its tough.