my fiance is crazy if he thinks that I should allow his family in right after I give birth and allow…

My fiance wants her family to come in after baby is born since they will be there in the waiting room the whole time and I was saying no the whole time but I made a sacrifice for her, she's so excited and they are only allowed to stay for a certain time Lol. I will be counting down every single minute haha.

after one hour, that's optimum bonding time, skin on skin contact between you two shouldn't be broken for an hour.

@jessiethelesbiann, I told him I don't what them to even know I'm in labor thankfully they all work except his mother who could take off for it but the rest live paycheck to paycheck so I won't have them hanging out the whole time. I have no intentions on having anyone there until my care is finished for sure

and they are done assessing the baby and what not

@melissah, that's what I've tried to tell my fiance especially since I want to breast feed!!! and it's my first child.. I want to have my time of euphoria (about the first hour)

Understandable, at first it was an argument with my fiance and I with what I wanted but it's her child too and she's excited and everyone is excited so we made little compromises but in all reality I just want it to be me and her for hour's until I'm ready but I got tired of arguing. Lol I hate arguing and making her feel like less then a parent. I give in too easily.

it's up to you, just remember that. 😊 just find some articles about the importance of that hour and show him!

@melissah, haha he is bull headed.. I've tried that I've even pulled books out too! im.going to see if I can get my doctor on my side and have him say that that's what need to happen haha

not that my fiance will listen to him just because he is a doctor haha

get a midwife, an obgyn that has knowledge about that stuff is more rare. well, it's best for baby so it shouldn't be too tough once he sees all the facts! I'm glad I don't have to deal with this, we aren't even telling anyone I'm giving birth until after he is born and we are ready for visitors.

@melissah, my obgyn is pretty naturlistic.. he dosnt prescribe many medications until you have tried more natural alternatives first.. he even suggested I go to the hospital in town that has a newborn nursery instead of the one I work at because it would be easiest for me.. but I work at the other hospital (only 2 in the area) and if anything happens I trust them more

nice, lucky!

@melissah, I know in this bible belt of Texas they don't believe in midwives and a large majority of the pediatricians won't take a baby born to midwife

Told everyone in my family not to come to the hospital with my last 2 births its way too overwhelming and I'm so exhausted I just throw a little welcome home party for my close family everyone brings over a food dish

@ab, that would be amazing... if only I could convince him

I'm in the midwest, also bible belt, minnesota. same here, imagine planning a home birth. 😧