ok so i need advice. I've been wih my husband for 5 years. (married for three) he's really controling (money wise. like…

ok so i need advice. I've been wih my husband for 5 years. (married for three) he's really controling (money wise. like i have to ask tk spend money no matter what its for and there was one point where I basically has to hand my check over to him) our relationship matches the signs of emotional abuse to a T. We have talked about this issue many times and nothing has changed. he has a severe lack of emotion and affection. and the relationship, to me, seems dead. and I'm starting to really debate on leaving him. (I've been getting closer every year to leaving) with our first child he was like super dad. and now with oit son, he wants little to do with him. He literally sits there on his phone and doesn't pay attention to either one of the kids now. it's to the point where I won't let him watch them anymore. (yes, that means I don't go anywhere uness I can find a baby sitter) he acts very superior to everybody and always talks down to me. (and everyone else) I firmly believe that marriage counseling will not help....what should I do? I don't work or drive. and I have very little confidence in myself to take care of the kids alone. although I've been basically doing that for a while......